We all know joining a sorority brings you sisterhood, most even know about the Big/little relationship as well. But what people don’t know about is how important your “family” becomes. Joining my sorority has not only brought me sisterhood and friendships but relationships with people I never would know without it. These relationships are hard to put into words and they are very important. The girls in my life have brought me so much more than just a Big/little relationship or sisterhood…
Big:
This is usually the first relationship people think about when they talk about sororities. Your Big is such an incredible human being. Personally, she is my best friend and my mother all at the same time. She holds me accountable for my actions but doesn’t judge me for them. She is always there to give me advice, and she tells me what I need to hear, not what I want to hear. She does not sugarcoat things with me because she is very honest. With this honesty, she is also sincere. In addition, to your Big being your absolute best friend, she is also like your mother. Your Big will love you no matter what, I know mine sure does. She checks on you and makes sure you are doing okay. This isn’t limited to social and family matters, she also asks you how your classes are going, if you remembered to study for your test and to be sure to stay focused during exams. She is the one who comes to take care of you when you don’t feel well and she’s the first one to answer you phone calls no matter the time. She is also the person you know you will always have a fun time with no matter what you are doing. She is always down to hang out, and even if she is too busy or too tired she insists you call her for a ride after a night out or she’s right there with you. She is a role model, and I know I aspire to be like my Big every day. She is such a hardworking individual. She has such a wonderful outlook on life and is always positive and I couldn’t be luckier to have a human like her as my Big.
Grand-BIG:
With a Big comes a G-BIG… and let me tell you, she’s the best! She is like your Big, she listens to you, gives you advice, hangs out with you, loves you and lectures you sometimes. Just like your real life grandma, she spoils you! She’s the one you go to if Big says no because chances are G will say yes! She is a super awesome person that is responsible and wise; this isn’t her first rodeo in the sorority. So she has no problem showing you the ropes and trying to get you more involved. Not only is she wise, but also she loves it when you have fun. She is always ready to have a good time because she is just so excited that her little has a little. Your G is the icing on your family line cake, simply because she is so amazing! She does everything your Big does and more, plus without G there would be no Big.
Twin/Triplet:
These are people that not everyone experiences, but I can say that I am so happy I do. Having a twin or a triplet is a bond that is so special. My Big took my twin and I at the same time, and she was my best friend. She is such an incredible person! She is so motivated and kind, and she is one of the most beautiful souls I have ever encountered. Having a twin can really make your family stronger. Since you have such a strong bond, it was easier for your Big to be a great Big to the both of you. Your twin is just another person you can go to for advice and for a good venting session. Since she is on your level (you are both littles to the same wonderful person) you really understand each other and what is going on in each other’s lives. Sometimes it is nice to get advice from a person who is going through the same thing as you at the same time rather than going to someone who went through it before. This is the same for your triplet. My Big got her after my twin and I. Like my twin, my triplet is such a great human being! She is so kind and so willing to be there for me. You get to add her to the list of best friends and people to give you advice! It is nice having a triplet because you always have a person to hang out with or talk to! She is so cute and looks up to your Big the way you do, but it is cool to see it. She makes your family even more fun!
Little(s):
These perfect little humans are your obsession. Whether you have one, two, or even three you love them greatly. This is no exaggeration, this person (or persons), is your child. You strive to be the best Big you can possibly be, and love your little(s) with every fiber of your being. A little makes you want to be a better person because now you are the role model. I mean when you have a Big as perfect as yours, you have a lot to live up to! You are the one who is now giving your pride and joy advice, listening to her, trying to get her to become more involved, making sure she’s having fun and being responsible. Everything you admire your Big for, your little is now admiring in you. You get to spoil her, love her, hold her and be best friends with her. This relationship is one that can never be replaced or fully understood until you have one of your own. This little human is everything to you and you are so important to them. Personally, I know I could absolutely not survive without my little children. I find myself bragging about them to other people, I even whip out pictures to show people “how beautiful and perfect they are!” I have become such a proud mom by having my nuggets in my life, and a better person.
Grand-little:
Coming soon…
I hope so! This is a relationship I do not yet have (but hopefully will soon!). But I do know from talking to my Big what it's like to have grand-littles. It is so cute watching them get excited whenever they see her. I really do feel like I’m taking my toddlers to their grandma’s house. The moment they see her they both yell “G!” and run to give her a hug. Watching the three of them interact makes my heart so happy. My Big is always there for them and willing to help them with anything they may need. She sheds insight into their lives. When they might not like the advice I give, they go to G and she tells them exactly what I did, but when it comes out of her mouth it’s the right thing to do… Personally, I cannot wait to have this relationship, to spoil another little person and love them!
Sorority families are so important because of the relationships that come from them. These bonds are irreplaceable and can be found nowhere else. You love each and every one of them and couldn’t imagine your life without them! You have so many wonderful people around you that are here for you, supporting you, to be proud of you, and to love you. You know you are so lucky because of them, and enjoy expanding your family and adding, even more, people to your fabulous line!
Seriously, our family is perfect! I'm sure yours is too,
