Grudges are a very common thing that humans tend to hold onto longer than we should. It's easy to hold onto the anger we have from getting hurt or let down by someone in our lives, and it's a struggle to be the bigger person and let it go. But the reason that I am writing this is to tell you that life is way too short and we should never hold onto grudges. Now I'm not saying that we shouldn't be mad at people who have done something to hurt us, because we do have that right. What I am saying is that it comes to a point where it shouldn't matter anymore and holding onto that anger and rage is not healthy for your mental and physical well being.

My father was always the person in my life to tell me "Just let it go, it's not that big of a deal" or "it is what it is," and I always admired that laid back personality he has. Going through the motions of our everyday lives makes it very easy for us to complain about the dumb little set backs we face each day, and stress from school or work can cause us to become angry or frustrated about things that are not worth it. I know that sometimes it is hard to shake it off and let things go, but sometimes we have to do just that. We have to look at the situation at hand and really think to ourselves, "is it worth getting this angry over it?" And most of the time I guarantee the answer is no. We can't get angry at things we have no control over, because that's just life. Nothing and no one is perfect.

It's a common thing for people to hold onto anger against someone who hurt them or emotionally damaged them, but at some point we need to let that anger go. Set it free, in order to move on and be happy with ourselves. Whether it's an ex, a former friend, a cousin or other family member, holding onto the anger you have against them only ends up hurting you in the end. You being angry at someone doesn't change the situation that you are in, it only continues to make you unhappy. Maybe you had a little disagreement with one of your close friends and now the two of you aren't talking because you both have too much pride to be the bigger person and let it go. Don't let pride get in the way of a friendship that you have had for years and one that you could continue to have for the rest of your life. Arguments are not worth losing the important people in your life, and holding onto grudges will only drive a wedge between you and the people you love.

No one in your life is perfect and neither are you. People are going to hurt you and let you down, and things aren't always going to go your way, but that's life. You can either choose to let things go and be happy with yourself or you can choose to hold onto every little thing you have against people and always be angry. So you choose, do you want a life of happiness or do you want to always have anger inside of you? Just like the saying, "holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." Stop drinking the poison, choose to be happy and let it go.