Guilty as charged, I have usually been the one searching for a new boo. As of lately, I’ve realized why it has never worked and why I just shouldn’t do it.

Don’t get me wrong, it is always natural to want a deep connection with someone. That is what we were made for, having intimate connections with other people. But as I’ve always been told, if you look for something hard enough, you’ll find something. However, it doesn’t mean that what you find will be what you have been wanting.

When you are in such a needy state and are willing to have someone to just love you and be close with, what you find won’t last. Why is everyone in such a rush to find the person they will spend the rest of their life with? If they were really that easy to find or have, they wouldn’t be the one.

Also, when all you are doing is looking for Mr. Right or Mrs. Right, you miss out on being yourself and having fun in your single days. Why not enjoy the time you have to work on yourself, be with your friends, or just enjoy those days where you have nothing and no one to answer to and can just be.

Love is wonderful and yearned for, but why not just be your wonderful self and let love come find you? Forcing something to happen when you or the other isn’t ready is a bunch of wasted time and hurt feelings. There is someone out there for everybody and you will be together when the time in right. Don’t rush the forever things!