I know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and every relationship is different but shouldn't every relationship strive to make both partners equal?

Growing up we have all heard married men say happy wife, happy life. This is so stereotypical and, in a way, puts women down. A relationship is an equal partnership, and both people should be happy. The happiness that you feel shouldn't be solely based on one person, no matter how important they are. Yes, relationships have two people and the other person is just as important as you, but you can't always put their happiness above your own.

I'll admit I love to be spoiled in a relationship. I love the feeling of knowing someone cares so much they go above and beyond for me, but I will do the same. It's unfair for a female to expect the male to concede on everything. It's detrimental to a relationship.

So no more "happy wife, happy life."

From now on just focus on a happy life. That's different for everyone, but if you have a happy life, the rest will come naturally.

Also remember that every relationship will have ups and downs. Every relationship won't be happy every day, but if it's truly worth it -- you will both find a way to be happy.