It starts from a young age, it hides its self in the depths of your mind.
As an adult, it is one of the most treacherous and destructible things we can do to our self-worth and self-image. Comparisons. We compare our looks, our ages, our achievements, our possessions, our jobs, or just about anything we can think of.
I Have found my mom telling me often to stop comparing myself to others very often these past couple of weeks. I become so caught up with wanting to achieve certain goals in life that I end up telling myself I haven’t done enough. I soon find myself frustrated because I start to feel behind and that I will never reach my dreams. I remind myself that this is my story and whoever I am comparing myself to, that that is there story. My chapters are written differently and each of our stories are beautiful and unique and not one will be repeated no matter how badly we want them to be.
We each have a reason for what we are doing and why we are doing it. We all get caught up on competition and comparing each other but we don't always think to stop and appreciate where are and where we came from. We each started out with a different plot to our story. It would be like comparing a Nicholas Sparks book to Harry potter. There is no comparison.
Not only do we compare our achievements or where we are in life, we also compare our looks. Again. That is like comparing the cover of the “Road to Rodanthe” by Nicholas Sparks to a Harry Potter book cover. One is “pretty” and the other one is “pretty exciting”, except the insides tell a completely different story. One ends and the other one continues if you know what I mean.
I think we can place a portion of the pressure to be something we aren’t, on social media. Some people may seem like they are having the best time of their life but in reality, their day may be awful.
Stop comparing yourself to the girl with more or less curves as you. If you want to gain or lose weight, do what is best for you and what will make you happy, but do not do it to make someone else happy or because you want to look like someone else. I can guarantee you that that person you are jealous of or are comparing yourself to has just as many insecurities as you do.
If you want to reach the summit of the mountain, you will reach it. You may get there a bit later than the person next to you, however, life is not a race. Even though almost everything we do as humans, we see as competition, life is not one of those things.
Help the ones who are injured and can’t make it up that mountain. In time, we all will get there when we get there, some of us just need an extra push. Don’t be afraid to take a step back and enjoy the view while you are at that base camp. From afar, it’s a beautiful climb but the ice fields and thinning altitude will catch you.
My friend you are strong enough to handle anything you set your mind to, so stop comparing yourself.
