I fear that the American society cares way too much about their size. Both men and women worry about the size of their bodies, and not the size of their hearts. I see this most directly when I spend time with my extended family. They are constantly making comments about how they want to lose weight, don’t look like they used to, or basically never feel like they are enough for themselves or for other important people in their lives. It blatantly shows me that there is a difference in generations.
As a teen, of course I struggled with my size and I fought myself several times that I wanted to be smaller and thinner. As if being smaller would make me a better person, more desirable, the best of the bunch. And guess what? It didn’t.
I finally realized that size does not have an affect on what I do, who I am, or who I love. When I realized this, I was truly happy; happy with myself, happy with my body, and happy with life. I’d rather put my energy and my thoughts to something much more important and meaningful, rather than the insignificant insecurity that I have about being tiny. Because “tiny” is feminine, “tiny” is pretty, guys like “tiny” and a countless number of other stupid reasons.
I no longer walk into a store and strive to find size small. I no longer wish that I can buy a top that is a size small or medium. I say, bring on the large and extra large!
So what, I need more material. So what, my body “bounces” when I move. So what, you don’t like it.
That’s not what’s important. And that’s not what should be important to any of us.
Being a certain size shouldn’t be something that means so much to you, it is only going to hurt you in the end. Because we set these goals to be a certain size, we never feel good enough until we are that size. Even when we achieve the goal, we still aren’t happy. This means we keep going, we keep trying, we keep pushing.
This isn’t the way life should be for males or females. No one should feel like they aren’t enough in the size that they are. In fact, you should feel like more than enough.
Here are some things I think you should try, maybe once a day, or maybe once a week:
- Look in the mirror and smile.
- Turn negatives into positives, like “Look at those love handles! I’m sexy!”
- Stop weighing yourself, numbers are not important.
I hope that you can realize that size does not matter!
Love yourself and keep smiling.
