Adam and Eve did it and we still haven't kicked the habit. Blaming can be an easy escape from our own personal guilt, and to be honest, it's kind of fun, right? It’s much easier to see what others are doing wrong rather than assess our own actions for flaws.

A fad has been created, this mud-slinging rhetoric for people that want a reason and a scapegoat for why society is the way it is today. We want to be on the side that's pointing the finger. The side that's far more morally superior than:

"The kids these days."

"The self-obsessed young adults."

"The snowflake generation."

"Ignorant millennials"

Nothing like the sweet sound of eloquently tearing others down while we sit behind the safety of our very own electronic devices and share these same views with people that feel exactly the same way. I used to be that person. I was on the Choo-Choo-You-All-Are-Ruining-The-Universe train. But things change, perspectives change, and hopefully, we grow.

For the humans that constantly complain about "this generation," here's something interesting: you are a member of the same society, live in the same world, country and time period as those "darn millennials." Gasp! Terrifying, right? While we burn down the world, all you can helplessly do is share videos and snarky memes about how we're burning down the world. Makes total sense. I get it. But actually, I don't one bit.

It's not just the older generation doing this either. I know people my age complaining and trashing their generation and chances are they are sharing their millennial hate with people, like Facebook friends and Twitter followers, who already agree and perpetuate millennial hate. This can result in zero dialogue and many times zero action. We feel validated because everyone else in our selected social world agrees with us. That means we must be right, right?

So, here's my (my as in my own personal perspective) breakdown of it. We have a large amount of people blaming another group of people for making everything suck, yet that same collection of people that are unhappy aren't doing anything about it. Yes, this is a generalization. I am sure there are members of the older generation who do not like millennials that are, in fact, contributing members of society and actively going out and doing something about what they openly dislike about this generation. Equally so, there are millennials that aren't contributing positively to our society, are complaining and are ignorant. However, from my personal experience, there's been a whole lot of complaining about millennials and not a lot of doing. It's this divide created to differentiate. You see, if you blame people like you, then you have to shoulder some of that blame. So, what I’ve seen happen is society creates distance between themselves and the scapegoats. Hence, those Millennials.

Crazy thing is, the older generation, chances are, is raising millennials. So, why not start right there? Perhaps, instead of stomping into the dirt a generation which your child is a part of, you encourage and motivate them to grow. Worry about what kind of people they will be and not blame the millennial generation for the parts you don’t like.

I honestly find myself so often questioning and evaluating how I behave in public. People my age are portrayed as self-serving, pleasure driven, awful people. And it feels like anytime I do anything, it’s being seen through the lens of millennial hate. I’m nowhere near perfect but I have some pretty incredible friends, my age, doing some unbelievably amazing things. I’d love to hear what the older generation’s older generation thought of them. Not to poke at them, but just simply to acknowledge the fact that they aren’t blameless for some of the negative aspects of society today. Trashing others doesn't look good on anyone. Especially when you only tear down and don't have intentions of rebuilding or making better. So let's do something because I'm tired of this.

I know, I'm just another complaining millennial. But, just like anyone living in this society, I am a human. I am solely responsible for my impact on the world and those around me.

And don't get me wrong. I don't hate the people who trash millennials. Just like all the bad, we have all the good that's come from the older generation to thank them for.

But I understand this aspect of humanity and our culture: Progress hurts. Changing mindsets, stigmas and negative elements of society are hard and there is no single generation that's done it perfectly. Not one. The goal should not be perfection, it should be growth and a willingness to engage with others in approaching hard problems with the goal of reaching solutions.

I just don't see the benefit of spitting on the generation that is going to take your place or that you're a part of. If you're a member of the older generation, why not spend the time you do trashing the younger generation and encourage and support the millennials that are around you. If you’re a millennial who complains about millennials, spend that time complaining used to do something productive or encourage your peers and pour into your friends.

For both the haters, spend that time used to tear down another group to better yourself. Make yourself a positive contributor to society, not to say you weren't before, but why not use that extra energy towards something much greater? Find ways to help others and serve others. If you think millennials don't give enough time and energy to family, dedicate the time you spend hating and give more to your family, spend time with friends and building others up. This is not myself on a pedestal condemning the "wicked millennial haters." This is more of a mirror pep talk to myself to get off my butt, stop complaining and start contemplating.

If you're unhappy with others actions, why not dedicate time to calling your own actions and motives into check as well? It's hard. I'm preaching to myself here, too. But the time we spend wounding with words could be spent mending with actions or uplifting attitudes and more positive rhetoric.

This isn’t always easy, but it's not impossible. It isn’t nearly as fun as complaining but it may make you a better, kinder person. The benefits of turning my blame-game tendencies into positive aspects of who I am as a human is so much more beneficial than blaming others for what I don’t like about our current society while doing nothing.

As aggressive as this may be perceived, please evaluate with a grain of salt. I am not the Chosen One (though, I am Kerry Potter) of the millennial people. I do not intend this to be a blanket statement for both sides and generations. I just wish the hate and complaining could be turned into a mutual understanding and improvement of our society.

So, next time I see people using millennials to blame them for something they are discontented with, I want to be on the side that is not playing the blame-game, but strives to believe this generation has all the potential in the world. I want to be on the side that no matter what generation I’m in, I love others well, serve others well and evaluate myself for the flaws I so quickly see in other people. I don’t want to blame, I want to be better.