Let me start off by saying that the decision to pursue God before pursuing a relationship is not always the easiest thing to do. While it may not be easy, it will definitely be worth it. If you're in college, you've probably gone through your fair share of relationships (or maybe you haven't, even better) and you know what you do and don't want in a relationship. Maybe you have questioned why none of your relationships ever seem to work out, ending with the inevitable question, "Is it my fault?" Here's a challenge for you: take the time to seek God before starting to pursue any new relationships. Chances are you're looking for love in the all wrong places. Sounds cliché, right? As cliché as it may be, it's true. Honestly, you shouldn't be looking for love at all right now. Let love find you. In the meantime, seek God and find His purpose for your life (as an individual).
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” -- Matthew 6:33.
You will be provided with what you need after you seek God first. Pursue the relationship with Him. I mean after all, we are called to be His bride right? How would you prepare yourself to be a man's bride? My guess would be that you would spend time getting to truly know him, spend time with him, and give him all of your love, so why wouldn't we do the same thing to be Jesus's bride? The person you should want to have a relationship with should also be on this path of pursuing God, meaning your already going to be on the same page before even entering a relationship. That puts you one step closer to having a successful relationship rather than having to ask yourself again, "Why didn't it work?"
So what about those of you who are already in a relationship? Well hopefully you're dating someone who has the same views as you and shares the desire to pursue God, so why not do it together? Doing it together means you have someone to keep you accountable and you can also know for sure that your relationship will be centered around God. You can be in an earthly relationship and still pursue God "before" pursuing a relationship, it just means that you put God first. So I challenge you to journey with God and pursue Him first, because everything will fall into place after that. Let Him be the center of your love life, and I can promise you that your future relationships will never be the same (trust me, that's a good thing).
