There seems to be a bad stigma that goes along with getting back with an ex. Someone always has something to say, or negativity to bring your way and an unasked for comment about how you can do so much better.
If you're anything like me, you cock your head to the side and ask yourself "wait a second, when did I hire this person to make decisions in my love life...OH WAIT."
The fact of the matter is there are tens of thousands of reasons why people get back together with their ex. Here are a couple.
1. It's comfortable
You don't have to sit there and play the get to know you games, wonder what their past is like, or even what they look like when they wake up in the morning. You know what it is going to feel like when they kiss you or hold your hand. You know their favorite movies, what drives them absolutely insane, and guess what? They know all that stuff about you too. When you get back with an ex, you know exactly what you are getting yourself into.
2. Kids.
Those miniature versions of each other that run around in your living room. You love them for all that they are at all that they are not. Maybe a lot of the things that you love about your kids, are things that you love, used to love about your Ex. Don't you owe it to your little rugrats to try and make it work with their mommy or daddy?
3. You've got nothing else going on
That's right, there's always those select few who get bored and hit up everyone of their ex's until someone text them back. My momma always said idle hands are the devil's playground.
4. The dating world is a terrible, awful place
At least with your ex, you don't have to be afraid that he is some psycho or hell, maybe that's what you are into. But if anything he or she was your psycho. You're not nervous because this person won't look anything like their profile picture, or they have lied about their age, weight, etc. You know if you have a good time they won't disappear forever because let's face it, you haven't been able to get rid of them thus far.
5. You both are still in love
This doesn't happen often, but there have been times when getting back with an ex-was the smartest decision you've ever made in your life. Maybe you got together too young, maybe the timing was off. Either way, you've never been able to get this person out of your head since the moment you guys called it quits. Every other relationship you've been involved has been trying to fill that hole that person left in your life. You've grown, you've changed, and you're ready to make it right again. Your ex-feels the exact same way.
In the end, it's your decision. The people around you have no place to tell you what is or isn't in your best interest. That's because love is a tricky mess and the heart will always want what it wants. You can't change it, you can't deny it. If you do you'll always wonder and end up unhappy.
Follow your heart, listen to your head, and tell everyone else to shove it.
