Last week I read an article stating we only get three loves in our life, the first being our naive childish love, the one we never think will end. The second being our "hard love" the one that is emotionally draining, confusing and teaches us a lesson, and the third being the one we never saw coming, the one that doesn't quite match up to what you imagined but somehow perfectly works. While an interesting theory, I find it to be all wrong. Now, maybe I'm not exactly qualified to be giving advice on love since I'm not really sure I've ever been "in love", but I believed we shouldn't limit ourselves to believe we only get a fixed number of chances to love and be loved.

As individuals, we limit ourselves to so many things, how much we eat, how much we spend and even how much we allow ourselves to feel at times, but love is not one of those places we should limit. Life is such a roller coaster that we can not possibly determine what will happen, especially in terms of love. Maybe we only get one love in our lifetime. I know people who have met their husbands in high school and have lived full lives without finding those two other loves that we are supposedly supposed to experience.

Maybe you are someone who falls in love easily, and you find something to fall in love with each time you are with someone. Or maybe you are someone who puts up such a guard that you don't allow yourself to be in love. Personally, each romantic encounter I have come across I am taught some sort of lesson, and find myself more and more. To believe that we only are guaranteed three loves is to cut ourselves off from a world of possibilities. What happens if you have already had these "three loves", do you close yourself off from love altogether? What happens if you've only loved once, but there's nothing wrong with the relationship? If we are unable to foresee anything that happens to us in our lifetime, then we most certainly cannot determine how much and how greatly we will love in our lifetime. Like any theory, this one was probably developed to put people at ease and give them a sense of certainty in such an unknown, vulnerable subject- but maybe that is the problem with how we view love as a society. Instead of limiting ourselves to love, we should make ourselves available to love.