Change is a difficult process for anyone. The result is ambiguity of the future and fear of the unknown - which hinders our ability to cope with the idea of change. Why would we want to leave our comfort zone? Why risk disappointment when we’ve become accustomed to routine? But life is constantly evolving and the selfish desire for things to remain the same halts our growth as individuals. This has often presented itself as a challenge for me. A friend once told me that I struggled with change, and she was right. I liked my safety net, my perfect little world. But recently, with some introspective thinking, I’ve come to some conclusions about why change is good, and so often, very necessary.

I like to think that good things fall apart so that better things can fall together. And that couldn’t occur with any other process than change, would it? Take friendships for example. Consider the people that you surrounded yourself with a year ago versus now. Some of your friendships have stayed strong, but others may have drifted apart. While you miss the memories formed through those friendships- those people have left your life for one reason or another, opening up room for new bonds, new personalities, and new smiles. It can also be true that the people you surrounded yourself with were toxic, limited your self-growth, and so often caused you more pain than joy. By distancing yourself from them, you open yourself up to the opportunity for happiness, but only by changing who you choose to be around.

It works the same way with college. At first, you don’t want to leave home, because you are used to everything. The idea of having to up and leave can be scary, intimidating, and very stressful. You experience a certain amount of culture shock, leaving you uncomfortable and uncertain. But in the same token you get a chance at a fresh start, a clean slate. The change you have been forced into can bring new people, knowledge, and lessons which you should welcome with open arms.

I believe the reason that people so often resent change is the fear of failure associated with it. Whether it be something like switching jobs, getting into a relationship, or moving, there is a certain amount of faith you put into that leap that everything will work out for the best. Whereas, by sticking to the same routine, people risk less. But this is a limitation in itself. If you don’t go for that promotion- who knows how long you will stay in the same position. If you don’t move- you might lose out on adventure. If you don’t open your heart, you might never fall in love.

I used to look at change as a drag. Something that was never ending, and always uncomfortable. I thought I would never be able to get used to anything because soon enough circumstances might change. But now I look forward to change. Change has brought me friendships that I wouldn’t have otherwise sought out. Change has advanced my education, affected my personality, and altered my opinions. Change has brought me love. It is the source of adventure in life, and should be welcomed with open arms. Don’t let discomfort hinder room for personal improvement.