Transferring schools for a relationship and it not working out is okay. Sometimes things don't work out like they're suppose to. It's okay. Sometimes it's ultimately for the best, but you don't realize it until you're out of the relationship.
I was that girl who fell in love in high school. I was only seventeen, while the boy was twenty-one. It was my senior year of high school and I was applying to colleges. I applied to a school in Vermont, St.Michael's College and a school in Virginia, Longwood University. Only applied to two schools and got into both! Honestly, I wanted to go to Tidewater Community College (TCC) or even Old Dominion University (ODU) to be with my boyfriend at the time, but my mom wouldn't allow me and since she was paying for college, I kinda had to obey her rules. So, the next closest school I could go to was Longwood University, only 3 1/2 hours away from my hometown, Virginia Beach.
Of course, I didn't get the real college experience while I attended Longwood University. Every weekend I would pay $40 to hitch a ride back to my hometown. I would just come to see my boyfriend, who still lived at home, so I would stay with his parents. I never saw my own parents, just him when I traveled home. I thought he was my everything. So since I didn't get that college experience I became depressed at school, although excelling at education, the social aspect I was dwelling. I would sit in the dorm room all day and night by myself. The only time I would leave my dorm room is when I had class, or when I left to go see my boyfriend. I was miserable and wasn't happy at all. My mom finally let me transfer my sophomore year to ODU so I could be close to home, but also so I could be with my boyfriend. My mom wasn't happy about it at first, but she just wanted me happy, so she supported me.
After I transferred to ODU, everything was wonderful! I moved in with my boyfriend, who finally got an apartment with friends. Then I got a part-time job near where we lived so I could get some money and have time for school as well. And let me tell you, I had more time for school than ever before; it was like I was reliving my journey at Longwood University, even though I was with my boyfriend this time. Overtime, I was just going to ODU for education and was lacking the social aspect again for this boy who only wanted me to be with him, who didn't support anything I was doing. He thought school was a joke and that he would make more money than I do without an education. He believed and valued things that I just didn't anymore, we became different and ultimately grew apart. It was hard because I transferred schools to be with him and then I found out that I couldn't be with him anymore because we weren't the same people that we both fell in love with.
After we broke it off, I started to focus on myself. I started doing things that I once loved doing. After consuming all my energy into this boy that I thought was my everything, I had to find myself again. It took time, but I couldn't be happier with the decisions I have made. I would never regret transferring schools because I love ODU and I have really made friends with amazing people there. Not only am I getting my education there, but I also have a social life that I never would have without transferring schools for a relationship. And hey, even though the relationship ended, it did turn out to be okay in the end.
