All of my life, I have been the type of person to love without question, to love without asking anything in return. But recently, I found out that doing that is a mistake. People have come and gone in my life way too often, and saying, "I love you," is my way of attaching myself to you. Saying I love you makes the other person (me) feel like I've been accepted into your life and that you accept me as a person.
College is a great example of this. There are some friends you stay friends with forever. But there are some that were just used to pass the time. I didn't realize this until I became the friend that just passed the time. Recently, there have been people who have done just that -- they used me as an extracurricular activity. I trusted them to love me back without question, but I was mistaken. I was used as the friend to contact when others weren't available.
But recently, I have put my faith in actions, not words. They might say something nice, but they act like a whole different person just because they want something from you. Sound familiar? Just because they say they love you, that doesn't mean that they wouldn't drop you the second they find someone else better in some way. I'm not saying that if someone says they love you, they are lying. All I am saying is that you don't have to be the extracurricular activity. Our generation takes the phrase, "I love you," for granted. Whether you want something back or not, the next time you say, "I love you," make sure you mean it.
