If you've spent a day with me, you'll know that I'm not an outgoing party girl. I prefer weekends in reading books, watching Netflix and relaxing with a set group of three friends or less. When it came time for Freshmen girls to pick the sorority of their dreams, I was in my room, writing poems and spending time on the internet.
I know what you're thinking: Why would you rather spend time alone than with a bunch of friends? That's the thing. I believe — and this may or may not be true — that spending free time in a Sorority and partying every weekend is not a good use of my time. I am a Writer, which means spending time alone is a must. Being in a Sorority just isn't my personality.
Growing up, my mother always thought that I would follow in her footsteps and pledge in the Alpha Kappa Alpha (AKA) sorority. To be honest with you, I thought so too. I'd always imagine myself stepping into the same shoes as my mother. When it came time for college and time to join a sorority, my personality did not fit with the other girls, which frustrated me. I wanted to be a part of something but I mentally could not do it. If you meet a girl who is in a sorority, they are outgoing, fun, energetic, confident and — I hate to say it--but they fall into the sorority girl stereotype. This stereotype isn't only for sorority girls but girls in general who are eighteen and older.
I don't fall into that stereotype, not because I've forced myself not to fall into it, but because my personality has driven me to other interests such as Reading, Writing, and "Nerd Culture."
Being a part of Greek Life doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't make you "basic." Greek Life is for a specific type of person. I realize and want other people who are about to become Freshmen to realize that you do not have to join a sorority or fraternity to make or break your college career. Greek Life only lasts those four years. You may or may not create life long friends. Do not force yourself to become a person that you're not just because it's "traditional" or "normal."