Hey friends, I'm here to break the age-old rule of "nice guys always finish last." It's a false statement, and I am going to attempt to tell you why; I'd also like to bring to your attention why this is such a wide-spread idea.
Reason #1: Some girls don't know how to react to a guy being nice to them. Give it another try -- You may catch a girl off guard by giving her a compliment or extending an invitation. Don't let that throw you off your game. Try again, and pay attention to the vibes. Don't be afraid to talk about your feelings, or intentions. Just try not to scare her off, and be confident not cocky.
Reason #2: There is a difference between being nice and overbearing, or "too much". Some girls like their space, and some don't. (Yes I realize we're complicated.) Tap into what this girl seems to prefer, and try and cater your actions toward that.
Reason #3: Girls rarely know what they want, and even when they do they tend to chance their mind -- Don't always think of a girl's feelings or actions as concrete. We're allowed to change our minds just like you are, so be patient and easy-going with it.
Reason #4: Even if said 'Nice Guy' and a girl don't date, they will have a great friendship. Nice guys know to be polite and respectful of girls, whereas the 'bad guys' tend to manipulate, suck at advice, and being a supportive friend. Any relationship a nice guy has is guaranteed to be of higher quality than other guys.
Reason #5:
It's easy to think nice guys finish last, but in reality, the nice guys get the girl in the end. They're the guys that get the long-term relationships that are honest and full of real love. Think about what you would rather have -- temporary or long-term.
Tips for the nice guys:
Don't let one girl, or even a couple girls make you feel like nice guys always lose. It's simply not true. The majority of us want the nice guy. We want the guy who asks how our day has been, or listens to us when we rant. The "bad boy" might get our attention at first, but the nice guys are the ones who really get the girl in the end. The nice guys are what we want, even if we don't know it right away, and even if we fall for the bad boy tricks, we want you.
Nice guys, don't change yourself to get the girl. Be honest, be yourself, and don't be the bad guy.
