There are many views my mother and I can't agree on whether it be from the way I style myself to how I want to live my life. The biggest disagreement between us has always been about kids; I personally don't want any. I have said it from a young age that I don't want to have kids. I don't think I would be a good mother and I do not want to sacrifice a lifestyle I have always dreamed of having.
In the time and country my parents grew up in, it was still expected of a woman to bear children and take care of the house as their main job. My mother more than my father still believes that a woman needs to have children to feel whole and I understand why she feels that way. What she needs to understand is that we are now in a time where women are not expected to be just housewives and mothers. Women can be anything they want from pilots to the president of the united states and choose to put that first in their lives.
There are two types of people when it comes to kids, those who want them and those who don't. To those who want to have kids and a family, I give props to. Kids are not easy to raise and I have seen that with my sister. She had to wake up whenever the baby did to feed, change, or simply entertain my him and she loves doing that. She had always known she was going to be a mother and she is a great one. She has a natural maternal instinct that showed even before she was a mother. Kids and babies always loved her unlike me. She gets to have the joy of seeing her children grow up into great people because she put so much love and effort into their lives. That is something I won't get to experience buts that's not what I want to do with my life.
I like many people want to put themselves first before others and not have kids. We want a life that would not be easy to live of kids were involved. I want to have the liberty to put all my effort in my studies and future career; a career that occupies most of a person's life. With the rest of my time I want to travel the world and experience the joys of the world with my partner who will share the same beliefs as me. He and I have will have chosen a life that might seem selfish to some but that will be our choice.
So yes to my mother I might be selfish but I am going to live the life I want to have not the one she wants me to have. To everyone I say have kids or don't; just let it be your choice and not what others want of you. It's about our happiness, not theirs.
