This Is Why I Love My College Friends

This Is Why I Love My College Friends

I didn't think I would find my people, but I did.
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When you enter your first year of college, everything is new. New classes, new course load, new home, new routine, new responsibilities, and what's most terrifying, new friends. I had a lot of trouble adjusting in the beginning of the year. I became instant best friends with my roommate, but she knew a lot more people than I did. I had a bad orientation experience, and thought that would be reflective of my time at school.

I made close friends within the first couple weeks. We did everything together. We ate every meal together, mapped out our classes together before the first day, explored the downtown, did homework together. I was happy with my little group, but still thought we were missing out on that experience of meeting lots of new people every day. I wasn't as involved as I wanted, but I was too shy to join things.

It wasn't until my senior year in high school that I realized how much of an introvert I was. When I got to college, that realization sunk deeper into my consciousness. I tried to put myself out there, but everything felt so awkward. Meeting new people and everything it just felt so strange. We all knew how weird it was to ask everyone we met the same questions, "Where are you from?", "What's your major?", "Where are you living this semester?"

One of my roommate's friends she knew from orientation heard we were going to see the movie, It, one night and asked if he could bring some friends from his floor along. We all went together and had a really good time. They have been my best friends at school since.

The reason I liked them so much though is because, unlike other people I met at school, they actually really wanted to get to know me. They didn't pretend. When you go to school, and you tell people about yourself, make friends with the ones who are genuinely listening to you, think you're funny, and share your interests. DOn't become friends with someone because it's convenient.

As I said before, I am what they call an introverted extrovert. But when I made my group of friends at school, I found myself putting myself out there more, having more fun whenever I went out. They pushed me to relax. I worry so much and am lazy as anything. But I found that once I started hanging out with them, I was just so much happier.

I didn't want to come home anymore. I wanted to spend the rest of the semester getting to know them even more and being as good of a friend to them as they have been to me. And that's exactly what I've been doing.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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My Boyfriend Has A Girl Best Friend, And That's More Than OK

I know the boyfriend with a girl best friend stigma is scary, but I promise they aren't all like that.

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Ah yes, you start seeing this guy and he's super incredible. He's everything you could've ever hoped for and more. He's sweet to you and your family, he's loving (bonus, he's also super cute). Nothing could take away this incredible feeling.

Then he tells you his best friend is a girl.

I can't lie, it always rubs me the wrong way too, at first. I've been in a relationship where I was seeing a guy who had a girl best friend. And despite better judgement, I let it slide. Only for him and I to stop dating and he start dating her a month later.

Ouch.

But I can promise you, it isn't always like that. Is it scary to think about? Of course. When my current boyfriend had told me I was going to meet his girl best friend, I wasn't thrilled about it. As sweet and nice as she was when I met her, I still wasn't thrilled about it. We had just started dating, so I hadn't yet gotten over those insecurities yet.

Questions ran threw my head. Had they ever had feelings for each other? Do they have feelings for each other and just won't act on them for the sake of their friendship? I couldn't seem to get my head to stop.

Until I started to talk to her more.

When I tell you, the best thing you can do in ANY relationship, is become friends with their best friend. They know everything about your significant other. The good, the bad and everything in between. You'll learn more about your boyfriend/girlfriend from their family and best friend than you will from them. You see a different side of them when they're with them.

To say I was apprehensive at first is probably an understatement. It didn't help that I had this awful gut feeling that she hated me. (BTDubstep, her and I are best friends now). But, after letting go of those insecurities and getting to know her, I realized that there was no form of intimacy or flirtatiousness between them at all. I had no worries because I trusted both of them.

She actually lives with him and his other brother. People always laugh at me when I tell them that because they think the stereotype and assume they have a thing. I love my boyfriend, I trust my boyfriend. I love his(and no mine) best friend, I trust her. There's nothing we don't share with one another because all 3 of us are very open with communication.

Just because your significant other is best friends with someone of the opposite sex, doesn't mean they're in love with them, or that they are trying to sleep with them.

Take the shot, the worst that happens is they do have a thing and you break up. If that's the case, they aren't right for you anyway. But take the shot, you might even gain yourself another best friend.

I know I did.

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