Whether it is a falling out or a huge fight, everyone has gone through the experience of losing someone close to them. However, it seems as though the only relationships that receive the spotlight for "tremendous heartbreak" are romantic relationships. But in all honestly, losing friendships can be just as devastating. As a teenager, it is expected that romantic relationships are fleeting and will not last forever. Yet when we think of friendships there is never a predicted expiration date. But life always seems to get in the way and sometimes the friend you thought would always be there, just isn't anymore. And it is okay to be upset. It is okay to wallow because losing friendships hurt.
Sometimes the loss of a friendship goes unexplained. One day you're telling someone all your secrets and the next day it feels as if you're as close as strangers. And the loss is unimaginable. You have to learn to adjust your life and change the way you used to go about certain things. Friendships are outlets that every person deserves to have and the fact that some friendships can disappear in the blink of an eye is something that deserves sadness.
The thing about losing friendships is that sometimes there is never closure. You could have a huge fight with someone and decide that your friendship is hurting more than it is helping. But you are still left with that feeling of lost. Even though you know why the friendship ended you are still left with unanswered questions and thoughts of what if. What if my life is not better without this friendship? What if I never find a friend like this again? And than even worse. The friendships that end with nothing being said at. Time can pull people apart and even when there is no "big fight" people still drift apart and the loss is still there. There was never a "formal" goodbye which can be even more devastating. You both know the friendship ended, but neither of you can pin point exactly when. No closure, no reason why.
Losing a romantic relationship is horrible, but so is losing a friendship. Both of these losses allow you to feel pain. It is important to realize that the feelings associated with those losses are completely valid.
