If you're anything like me, you've been called all of the names: needy, emotional, obsessive—you've heard them all. But have you ever thought to yourself, "Hey, maybe these could be good things?" I hadn't either until a couple of days ago.
A few days ago, my boyfriend and I went out and bought promise rings for each other; it was one of the happiest moments (for me) of our relationship. For me, once I start falling for somebody—especially as hard as I currently am—it's nearly impossible to get me to stop. Oddly enough, commitment isn't really my thing. I will admit, however, that I am definitely that girl that is what you might call clingy.
I'm that girl that is always wondering, does he really love me? Does his family really love me? Does he actually mean all of the compliments that he gives me? Do I annoy him when I constantly text him? Am I just someone that he is into right now, but will get over?
If you're right there with me in the clingy girlfriend club, you know of these questions all too well. You've asked yourself these questions countless times in all of your serious (or maybe even your not-so-serious) relationships, and you probably know how ridiculous it must seem to the other person. You know that they love you, that their family loves you and you know that all of your insecurities don't matter when you're with them.
But you just can't help but wonder, why me? Why do you like me? Why am I so special? They probably tell you all the time the many things that they love about you—your eyes, your laugh, the way you're all over them when you feel threatened by another girl...does that last one sound familiar at all? I bet it does, because it's something that I do, and most people consider that to be clingy.
But in all reality, if somebody is seriously in love with you, they'll put up with your clinginess. But put up isn't really the right phrase, because they want to be with you, clingy habits and all, because they can't imagine their world without you. Their day just wouldn't be the same if you weren't always texting them. Their drive to school in the morning wouldn't be as nice if they couldn't call you. They wouldn't be reminded of how much you love them, every day, when you get defensive and jealous because of that one girl on the basketball team.
If your boyfriend, fiancé or even husband doesn't enjoy every second of your clingy antics, they're probably not the one for you. Think about it—would you go through your life with someone if every clingy thing they did drove you insane? Probably not.
So next time someone tells you that you're clingy, they may not always mean it as an insult. Clingy isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes it can be the one thing that shows you who you'll really be happy with.
