Well first, let's be honest, college parties these days just aren't as fun as they used to be. Maybe it's because I'm getting older, or maybe it's because I would rather hang out with five good friends than 100 strangers.
When you go to a party the norm is that no one is looking out for you. Yes, it sounds selfish to say, but everyone could use someone to look out for them; especially when it comes to going out during college years. You should always have someone who can account for you, where you are, who you are with, what you are drinking, what you've done. Godforbid something happens,they'll know the information that could save your life. If you decide not to come home in the morning they will know if you are with someone or if your missing, and hopefully who the last person they saw you with was. Not only is no one looking out for people at big parties a turn off but then you are being surrounded but a 100 faces of people you don't know and don't care about you. What is also frustrating is when you are the one stuck with some random drunk girl because you don't want something bad to happen to her if you leave her because again,no one is watching out for her.
I would rather the five good friends come over while we make memories and laugh hysterically, than have to wonder if something bad might happen to one of us or fretting about having to babysit someone.Halloween makes it worse because I would also prefer not to be surrounded by said 100 strangers, in costumes where I can't actually see who they are. Nor do I enjoy being surrounded by half naked girls who think that the less clothes they wear the more the guys will like them. Not saying you can't have the more scandalous Halloween costumes, but at most parties I don't know that I would even call some of those costumes.
The older you get the more you realize it's not the parties you go to that you will remember (or won't for some of you) it's people you have by your side. Making a party out of just your close friends and absorbing their personalities, and their essences of who they are and why you are so glad they were brought in your life, is so much more rewarding then going to party and not even remembering it. You get to have your party fun but at the same time you are continuing already awesome friendships. You get to eat as much food as you'd like and not be afraid something gross happened to it, you get to fully be yourself and not just who you want random people to believe you are for that one night. You realize that being known isn't as fulfilling as being loved. Sometimes you don't even need a party in general. Sometimes just the company of a loved one and some pizza is the best night ever, no matter the occasion.
So this Halloween I will dress up as my favorite character from that TV show that only the weirdos watched in middle school, and I will be surrounded by some of the most complex minded, kind hearted, hysterical, and beautiful souled friends. If you decide that going to that Frat party down the street is catching your eye, I wish you the best of times and safest of times. Make sure someone is watching out for you and you are always watching out for someone else; after all this world is a pretty a awful place without wonderful friends.
