Think back to the last time that you had a terrible day. Your best friend probably tried to strike a conversation with you, and you weren't in any kind of mood to talk. There's a good chance that your friend wondered, even if for a second, if they personally did anything to you versus solely realizing that you individually may not be having the best day.
There's several times where I've wondered what exactly it is I may have done that caused a friend or person to treat me a certain way -- to act in such a manner that isn't the friendliest. However, one of the most important realizations you'll ever make is that you can't dictate how other people treat you.
"How someone else treats you says more about their character than your own".
As a person one of my biggest flaws is actually thinking that every action or word thrown my way is genuinely because of something I personally did. When you live this way, you'll come off as not only crazy sometimes -- but also a bit self-centered. Sometimes, people don't even notice who they're talking to when they say things. If a person isn't treating you in the best way, it's not typically because of something you may have done.
Maybe you're thinking -- "Well, what if someone's mad at me and I did ~x, y & z~ so that's why they're being rude?" Then to you I'd say: this case is different because you're well-aware of your own actions that caused this treatment. This is normal for someone to be agitated if you disrespected them or were rude to them specifically.
When I say not to take things personally, I am conveying the message that when people don't talk to you the same way they typically do for absolutely no reason, it doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. Just because someone seems a bit off in their interactions with you on a particular day or even week, does not mean it will 100% always be because of you.
This is also definately applicable to those certain people who can never seem to say anything nice. If they start directly insulting you as a person, just know that they probably thrive off of this cruel, rude persona. It's important in that scenario to also keep in mind this person probably has more issues of their own than the ones they're pointing out in you. Don't take cruel people's words to heart.
Minus if the person isn't morally the best, a great person could just be having a bad day as I said earlier. I've said some things I wish I didn't on bad days versus when I'm more kind during my good days. It's just how life is, nobody can be in a good mood 100% of the time. Just keep in mind that when someone isn't in a good mood towards you, it's not always because of you. Think of it from their perspective next time before becoming quickly offended or upset.
