We've all had a time in our life where we've had opposition from someone. This could be with our significant others, siblings, parents, bosses, or friends. At some point, one of these people or possibly all of these people, have said something that tears you down.
Words are a powerful thing. Words can make or break you. Words can lift you up or tear you down. So when people use words to tear you down, use your forgiveness for them to build you back up.
So often, we find it easy to hold a grudge on someone instead of getting over whatever it was that upset us. We find it easier to exchange devilish glances with the one that hurt us than to just move on from the problem.
When we hold bitterness in our hearts, we let the other person win. This is because we are holding in that pain or that hurt that someone has caused you. Even if the other person did the absolute worst thing or hurt you in the most unimaginable way, we should forgive them. When you forgive others, you allow the grudge to go away.
The most important lesson is this: Don't forgive them because they deserve it, forgive them because you deserve it.
However, just because we forgive someone, it doesn't mean we have to forget about what they did. This is the most important thing. Sometimes people hurt you so much that they don't deserve to be back in your life. It was toxic for them to be in it. So the healthiest thing to do is to forgive them, but not allow them into your life anymore.
The truth of the matter is: sometimes life sucks and sometimes life doesn't go the way you want it, but that's okay. That's because it's just as possible that the next day of your life could be the best day of your life. But you will never have a good day until you learn to be better. When someone hurts you, it's okay to experience the pain from it for a while. We just need to not prolong the pain by holding grudges and being bitter.
When your enemies try to get to you, whether it be through gossip, subtweets, or hateful words, leave it be. Be the bigger person. It is so much better to be able to reflect on a situation and know that you did not stoop to your enemies' level.
Why is it better?
Because you were the bigger person, and you decided to be better, not bitter.
Bitterness tears us down. It makes us weak, self-conscious, and immature. When you decide to become better, you decide to be strong, confident, and an adult.
In life, there will always be those who tear us down. You can decide that you want to be bitter, or you can decide to get up, keep moving forward and be better.
