This isn’t an article about that fraternity boy who didn’t snap chat you back after you hung out, the cute boy you met at the bar, or your ex that seems to keep trying to come back into your life, or the older boy in your lab that keeps making eyes at you, but won’t talk to you.

This article isn’t about that one guy that broke your heart.

This article is about you.

This article is about why you are single. And although it may be hard (the majority of the time), it’s the greatest thing that can actually happen to you.

College is weird.

It’s a time where you spend countless hours studying for an exam and fail. It’s a time where you drink a beer at noon on a Wednesday just because you can.

It’s a time where you can spend a large amount of money on a trip abroad. It’s a time where guys and girls “date” or only hang out when it’s convenient for them, and It’s. Completely. Normal.

Then there are girls like you.

It isn’t a bad thing being a girl like you because I am like you, too.

We just don’t get it. We don’t understand the concept of relationships or even boys at this point in our lives. We don’t get the dating scene or how people even meet at the bars.

You are completely fine with hanging out with your friends and having a good time. You have no one tying you down or have you checking your phone.

How great is that? But why does it feel not normal? College is the time to be the cliché girl worrying about the guy not texting her back right? Or the girl who always seems to have a boyfriend?

No, girl. Don’t get me wrong, I am not judging any girl that fits these examples because at times in my life I question why I am not being like them.

But from my own personal experience, it is OKAY to not be that girl. Stick to your guns. Stick to who you are in college. I am not saying that you need to stay in your comfort zone because I am a firm believer in growing in college.

This may mean being single in college. It is hard. College is hard. But think about how different your experience will be compared to the next person.

I don’t mean to be single (LOL) in college, but for some reason, I have realized that I have needed to be single in order to get to this point in my life.

It may be hard. It may not be easy seeing everyone else finding people at parties or the bars, but one day it’ll all make sense and I have no doubt about that.

It may suck when you don’t have anyone to buy you drinks at the bar (I had to throw that one in there).

It may suck when all of your friends seem to have someone.

It may suck when you feel alone.

Take these hard times and make them into something greater than you could ever imagine.

Study abroad. Join a random club. Make new friends. Go out with your friends and live it up.

It may not be what you want, but it’s the time you are getting now that is molding you for what you will get in the future.