In today's society, too many people have a fear of being alone. Being alone always has a negative connotation. People think that they might not find someone to love them and that they will never be good enough for anyone. After experiencing this myself, I've come to the conclusion that it is OK to be alone. It is not as bad as it seems, and here's why...
Being alone forces you to learn how to love yourself. When you are constantly surrounded by so many people, it becomes easy to forget who you are. You find yourself changing to fit other people's needs, and not your own. Being alone helps you to reclaim your sense of identity. You remember what it takes to make yourself happy. When you start doing things for you again, you remember how to make yourself feel loved. Solitude also helps you think. Being alone forces you to be alone with your own thoughts, which might seem like a hard thing to do. But thinking alone helps to make sure that your thoughts are only your thoughts -- that they aren't influenced by others. Today, it is so easy to confuse your opinions with others because you're constantly surrounded by the beliefs of others. It's good to hear these diverse opinions, but it is also good to remember your own. Being alone helps you to clear your head and think about what is important to you.
"You can't pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first," is a quote that I came upon that speaks great volumes about being alone and what it can truly do for you. An important thing to always remember is that in order for you to love anyone, you have to love yourself first. In order to love yourself, you have to make time for yourself. If you ever want to be able to love someone else, make sure you're full of love to give, and sometimes it takes alone time to figure this out.
Being with other people is a really important part of life, but so is being alone. The next time you get to be alone, try and think of it as a positive experience. Read that book that you've been wanting to read, enjoy a nice cup of coffee, watch a movie and paint your nails. Remember to do the things that you love, for you and only you. Once you find this happiness in being alone, you will never feel like you are lonely anymore.
