Bear with me now, it is alright to be a hot mess in your 20s. Say it out loud, it is OK to be a mess in my 20s. This concept took me a very long time to accept; although, I am only 22 my 20s have been a whirlwind of mess. I have been through job changes, friendship losses, heartbreak, health issues and my fair share of stupid drunken nights. But, that is OK.
Your 20s are for you to never do your laundry, to not remember how many shots you took last night, to feel super guilty for hooking up with that one guy. It is alright because eventually your life will fall into place. I like to believe once you reach 30, it all changes, and it might not change for everyone. Until then, I would like to embrace the mess full force.
Here are five reasons why it is OK to be a hot mess.
1. If your future husband or wife can't accept your mess now, why do they deserve your best?
So, you're too much to handle now? Alright, then I guess you can't deal with me screaming through the labor of your child, either, or crying when my mother dies in the future. Don't you want someone who will be stable and there for you and vice versa?
2. Just because you're in a relationship, married or parenting young, doesn't mean you have to be boring.
Even the best parents, wives and girlfriends need some stupid fun, too. Remember this is your time to shine and find yourself. Even if that means grabbing a pint of ice cream and some Doritos and laughing with some friends.
3. Your life will eventually fall into place, then you will have to be a real adult.
So, eventually, when everything does fall into place, you're probably going to have real obligations that don't allow you to have spontaneous fun all the time. Use this time now to appreciate that you can get up and go do whatever you want. Embrace the fact that you might not have it all together, and just go with the flow.
4. So, you don't have everything you want today? What do you have?
A sure fire way to ruin your 20s is thinking you should have it all together by now. So, you might not have the perfect job, but are you making money doing something? So, you don't have a boyfriend or husband, but do you have an amazing family that loves you? So, you aren't living where you want to be, but have you gotten to know your city? There's always a silver lining, and sometimes, we forget it's there.
5. Don't forget to laugh.
So, you did something stupid when you drank that entire bottle of wine? Laugh it off. Now is the time to live, laugh and love through all the pain and heartbreak. Don't forget to enjoy life as it comes to you, and don't expect to wake up tomorrow and have it all.
