Things Just Didn't Work Out, But That Doesn't Mean They Never Will

Things Just Didn't Work Out, But That Doesn't Mean They Never Will

Things will get better.


Dear heartbroken human,

I know you're hurting right now. I mean, who wouldn't be? Everything was going so right, everything felt so right, so why didn't it last? I bet you're thinking of all the little signs that you didn't notice, and definitely playing either music that reminds you of them, or music that comforts you while you lay in bed in silence.

There's a myriad of emotions running through you right now - it's okay to feel sad, angry, disappointed. You can stop checking your phone to see if they messaged you. You can wipe your face and put on your favorite movie. Treat yourself to your favorite dessert, your heart needs it.

There is one thing to always remember in the middle of heartbreak: it gets better. Sure, it feels horrible now and just hearing people tell you that makes you feel even more hopeless. It's true though. These ideas that people have about themselves as to why their relationships just never end in a fairytale-like manner, they're all untrue. It's not because you weren't good enough, it's not because you weren't attractive enough, or had issues that made you feel like you were a burden.

The answer to why things didn't work out is simple: we meet people on this 'cosmic highway' of sorts, and while some of these people stay in our lives, a lot of them don't.

A lot of them are hitchhikers, and there's nothing wrong with this. We see their thumb in the air and give them a ride for as many miles as they need, and then they're gone, just like that. It doesn't mean the ride wasn't enjoyable, and it doesn't mean that it was worthless to you at all. Yeah, maybe you used up some gas to get them where they needed to be, but that's just it- you got them where they needed to be.

People are not the same after they've met one another, and have gotten comfortable with each other. You learn the intricacies about another person, like how many pillows they have on their bed and how they prefer to cuddle. The truth is, it hurts to remember how good these things felt, and how much you'll miss them. That's okay.

We all learn from one another and grow into better people through our experiences. We teach people our special lingo and get excited when they pick it up. We teach one another to be more caring of each other's emotions. We constantly share little bits and pieces of ourselves with one another that makes us better lovers.

So maybe it didn't work out. That doesn't mean that you didn't change somebody for the better, and maybe make them a better lover for someone else. I know that stings to even consider, but consider it the truth. Consider that, maybe, somebody else was made better for you.

We learn and grow from each other, and it's a constant search of finding ourselves and finding our perfect partner. So yes, your cosmic hitchhiker has reached their destination, but that does not mean that you have reached yours.

You still have so much learning to do, and even though you're sad now, things will get better. So, indulge in your ice cream and remember that if things were meant to be, they will be. Just because you and that person aren't together now doesn't mean you won't come back to each other. Life just takes time, and we all still have growing to do.

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To My Boyfriend's Mom

He loves you more than you could ever imagine...

Without you, there would not be a him, so first things first, thank you.

1. Thank you for teaching him to love a woman the right way, to put God first, and YOU before me always, the respect he shows you is so attractive, and you deserve it.

He talks about you like you hung the moon, I don't doubt for a second that he will be an amazing father one day, I owe all of that to you.

2. Thank you for giving me a chance, learning to love me when you knew your son was doing the same.

I can't speak for my own first impressions, but hopefully mine was not THAT bad...when we both slapped him on the arms for his rude remark at the same time, I knew our relationship was already blossoming.

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3. Thank you for every meal you have ever purchased me.

And chocolate, and know just as well as your son does that food is the way to my heart. Especially Taco Bell and cheesecake ;)

4. Thank you for your advice, suggestions, and opinions...and asking for mine

Whether it's telling me to slap him for being a smart a$$, or you're asking me about color swabs for your kitchen makeover, you come to me as if I am your own, and I am so honored to give you my own input.

5. Thank you for including me

You never fail to leave a spot for me, and I love family dinners/outings with you guys just as much as I love my own!

6. Thank you for teaching your son to never give up, and that if he does it is only to better himself, or it's the only choice he has left.

He is so focused on his future, he wants the best for himself, and he is constantly reminding me that these are things that YOU taught him, you deserve to be so proud.

7. Thank you for letting him love my family, and allowing me to love yours.

He is so loyal and loving to my family, and I don't even have to ask myself why because I see him with you and yours. Thank you for letting us double up on holidays when we can, and making sure we get the most out of our time with you!

8. Thank you for being his best friend.

I think of him as mine too, but I couldn't think of a better person to also hold that title, you know him better than anyone else and you always will.

9. Thank you for teaching him how to treat a woman

He is constantly telling me "You sound like my mother." Thankfully earlier in our relationship, he told me that the woman he wants to be with, should do just that. He always tells people who try, "No, no one calls me by my full name except my mom and my girlfriend."

10. Thank you for your honesty

We all know that he and I can drive you crazy sometimes, thank you for telling us like it is, and making sure we know you still love us anyways.

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11. Thank you for teaching him to work as hard as possible in anything and everything he does.

I have never met anyone with such a desire for success, he and I are constantly discussing how we can better our futures, and I know exactly where his drive comes from.

12. Thank you for teaching him to clean up after himself

Even though sometimes, it takes him a minute to do so.

13. Thank you for teaching him how to love, and letting him love me.

I have never felt so loved by a man, probably because anyone else who came into my life was just a boy. Thank you for your unconditional love for him, he is your entire heart and that is so easy to see, I am happy to share his with you.

You and I both know that even years from now we will both occasionally probably be closing the fridge that he left open, cleaning the crumbs he dropped, demanding he take a shower after playing soccer, or reminding him 20 times about plans we made weeks ago, we both share such a great love for such an amazing man. I could never be more thankful that you brought forth into this world such a comforting, supportive, protective, steadfast, driven, handsome, and hilarious guy. Thank you for everything you do for him, for me, and for us, I love you a lot!

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To The Guy Who Told Me Not To Be Me, Nice Try

He will not silence me.


He told me to never cut my hair short because it would make me look too masculine.

So, I sent him pictures of three different pixie cuts and asked him which one I should get.

He told me not to wear red lipstick because it made me look like a slut.

So, I bought every shade from blush rose to maroon.

He told me not to buy heels taller than one and a half inches tall because it's unattractive for a girl to be taller then the guy she is with.

My favorite shop was having a sell on a beautiful pair of three-inch stilettos. I bought them.

He told me that I was putting on a few extra pounds and that I shouldn't order dessert on our next dinner date.

Did he honestly think I would say no to the red velvet cake that our waitress offered?

He flirted with the waitress, saying that I should "look more like her."

I wrote down his number on our receipt before we left the restaurant.

He told me not to leave my "feminine products" on the counter because it's embarrassing.

When his friends came over for guys night, I organized my tampons and pads nicely on the bathroom shelf.

He told me that I couldn't talk to my best friend of 12 years because he was a guy.

I invited him to watch a movie with us at the local cinema the following week.

He told me not to order wine at the bar with him and his work friends because he didn't want me to seem "trashy."

I ordered jack and coke instead.

He told me not to be a feminist because it meant that I thought I was better than him.

My new "GIRL PWR" shirt is my favorite.

He told me to be silent.

He told me that I think too much and that I speak what I think too often.

He told me nobody cares about what I have to say.

He told me that the things I say don't matter.

So, I wrote a poem about him.

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