Why I'm Okay With Being "One Of The Guys"

I've been a tomboy my entire life.

Don't get me wrong, I love it. Being athletic and "chill" has its perks. But in my most recent years of life, I've found it hard to form relationships with guys that don't entail the all-encompassing word "bro."

Many of my girl friends tell me they envy my ability to talk to guys so casually. Since I have more guy friends than girl friends, conversation with new guys that I meet just seems to flow much easier. For the most part, guys talk about subjects that I know a decent amount about. I could talk about a handful of sports for hours, which makes me fall into the friend zone.

For many reasons, the friend zone is a horrible place to be in. It is easy to fall for a guy that you spend a lot of time with and know really well. It just makes sense. I've been friend zoned by a decent amount of guys. I used to get really upset about them not reciprocating my feelings. Looking back at many of the relationships, I see why they didn't like me like that.

It was because they always saw me as a friend and never really thought about me being a girl.

I don't dress in cute clothes very often. My go-to outfit in the warmer months of the year is running shorts and a t-shirt. I never wear makeup, except when my girl friends guilt me into wearing some of theirs. I also give many of them relationship advice and become good friends with their girlfriends.

Being "one of the guys" is a good thing. It just flows and feels natural. I have a solid group of guy friends, both in college and back home, that care about me. They protect me like a sibling and are always sure to include me in whatever the bros are up to.

I have plenty of time to find a guy that doesn't see me as a bro immediately, but for now, I'm happy with my boys.