We all know one, the helicopter parent, aka the worst type of parent. Thankfully, I was blessed with two parents who are the complete opposite of helicopters, they parent, and I listen, there's no need for them to hover over me and text me every 20 minutes and give me gross pet names. Are all helicopter parents bad? 90% of them definitely are. Every person I've met that's had a helicopter parent, has either rebelled insanely (got into heavy drugs and drinking) or is attached to the umbilical cord until they're 30.
What are the benefits of being a helicopter parent? Nothing. Whether you text your child every 4 hours or every 20 minutes, nothing is going to change, they'll be doing the same thing they were doing 20 minutes before that. Stop blowing your kids phone up, leave them alone, give them space, jeez people. Do you need to call them your "baby boy" or your "little princess" every time you refer to them? Barf, no. They're an ADULT, they're not 4 anymore, cut the cord.
You're not benefiting your child by sheltering them and helicoptering. Sheltering them and not letting them experience their teenage years, making their own mistakes, will only cause them harm. I have friends who have helicopter parents and because they were so sheltered in school, when they went to college they got black out drunk every night and did cocaine off of male extremities because they thought it was cool. There's definitely a 50/50 chance that wouldn't have happened if parents would back off and let kids be kids, their friends will help them, trust me.
And when your child gets a boyfriend/girlfriend, BACK OFF. They love this person and want to spend time with this person, and YOU as a helicopter parent need to learn that, and respect it. Do they still love you as their mom or dad? Of course. But do you need to be in the middle of your daughter/son's relationship? Absolutely not. One day they're going to get married and start a family and that will be their priority so shut down the chopper and relax.
Cut the cord people, cut the cord.
