After what feels like my entire life(but honestly just a couple of years),I have finally declared myself as a woman of standards. It's weird that I actually admit it, since almost everyone that I meet tells me that I deserve more than what I have-- especially when it comes to dating guys. I've always imagined having standards as becoming one of those "white collar" and "elitist" group of people, who always wants nothing more than a great deal of qualifications, but I was wrong with that stereotype. I now have more principles than I've had before.
When I realized that I had the option to say noto certain situations or people, I knew I had more power than I expected. However, I've realized that having standards means that there is a long list of what I don't like versus a short list of what I do.
Having standards is being able to cancel out the options that don't suit our needs so that we can mentally grow. And because you have to subtract those alternatives, there aren't enough choices to cling on to. Personally, I think it sucks.
When I accepted everything, I felt overwhelmingly excited. There were possibilities in every corner and the search for them were extremely easy but now, the difference is immensely distinct and the simple efforts are not an option. Which also means, seeking out a potential boyfriend and that leads into spending a long period of quality time; similar to how much effort I would have to put into pursuing my extended term goal as a writer. The challenge of having to put in the time, and deducting distractions that drag me away to my end target, can bring results of tiredness and stress. In spite of all of the negative causes behind having standards, the finished product of what I want will all be worth it in the end.
Standards correlate with using energy and endeavored behavior so it will all turn out almost exactly the way I want it to be. I guess I complain about the cynical sides of having standards because it means I'll have to really work for it and be patient. Having to get my hands dirty and crossing out conceivable promises for solid assurances are the only ways to accomplish what I want from life.
As Rodolfo Costa quotes "It may take little time to get where you want to be, but if you pause and think for a moment, you will notice that you are no longer where you were. Do not stop - keep going." And I agree. Discontinuing my new standardized ways will only bring me to a halt and I'd have to start all over again. I have come to a point in my life where I am ultimately ready to transform myself. So I guess having standards isn't all that bad, right?
