As romanticized as they’ve become, Harley Quinn and the Joker are not "relationship goals." In fact, they’re far from it.

From the way he talks to her, to the way he treats her (and even to the way he doesn’t treat her), the Joker is not a romantic fella - he’s an abuser.

Someone who emotionally manipulates you, hits you, or treats you like you’re worth nothing is not a romantic, even if they turn around and buy you flowers and chocolates and pretty things to make you feel better. That. Is. Not. Love.

Nor is it okay for them to threaten you or themselves, at any point, if you decide to live without them. You. Are. Not. At. Fault.

And I know, to some people it’s sweet to think that even some of the cruelest and sinister villains can find love, but what they have is not love. That is toxic.

The Joker is known to have abused Harley both mentally and physically. He is known to treat her like she is nothing, often going as far as to almost killing her.

That. Is. Not. Love.

If someone is making you feel like you do not have a place on this earth, get away as fast as you can and don’t look back.

You are not entitled to keep them happy. You are not entitled to save their lives, and you are not entitled to be their puppet.

It’s sad to watch Harley continue to fall back into the Joker and his tricks. However, it is even more sad to see that portrayed as okay to all of the children, young adults, and adults who so lovingly follow the comics and their animated counterparts.

It needs to be made clear that the relationship between Harley Quinn and the Joker is not OK.

It is not romantic.

It is not love.

Never is it okay to treat a woman with that much disrespect and anger (nor is it ever okay to treat a man like that).

Actions like that are not made okay with a little note telling you how sorry they are. They are not made okay by kissing you, and telling you nice things to make up for all the bad. They are not made okay by promising to change, and lying about love.

They are never okay. Period.