It seems as though every decade or time period has something that it's known for. The roaring 20's were known for flapper girls, speakeasies, and prohibition. The 50's were known for housewives and nuclear families like the Cleavers. The 80's for bright colored clothing, largely permed hair styles and bands like Nirvana. But the lovely age of the 2010's isn't known for anything quite so glamorous. Instead it's known for something most of our ancestors would be ashamed to say they were related to - The F'boy.

Now you're probably thinking to yourself, "Victoria, f'boys are not the only thing this time period is known for. There are so many more positive things that make this day and age stand out!" While yes, there are many things we can say about this time period that are positive, there's one aspect that we can't overlook. Something our society created. We all know the decade of the iPhone, text messaging, and social media are all very notable things about our lifetime, but these are all actually part of the f'boy problem. The decade that harbored the f'boy was able to do so because we have all of these wonderful aspects of technology and communication.

Most of us probably only ever see true examples of chivalry in movies or in books. If most of these are based off of actual ideas, or some type of truth, why does our society not reflect the same thing? (Yes, I know real life is not like the movies, but someone had to have gotten the chick flick concept from somewhere) Growing up, I used to hear stories from my family members about how different boys were "back in the day" -- how they would open car doors, pull out chairs, actually call you when they say they're going to call you, and actually treated women with respect. If most of you are like me, then you've had your fair share of times when you wondered, "What the heck happened?!" "Why can't he just text me back?" and you've probably also rolled your eyes every time a boy told you, "You're the only girl I talk to." In my opinion, all of these problems can be dated back to right around the time that our generation was just starting out our lives.

Don't get me wrong, I am in no way insinuating that any parents of any of these f'boys are to blame. While I often ask myself if their moms know they are f'boys, I certainly don't think the parents are at fault here. I am also not insinuating that boys (or men) were always chivalrous and perfect. Lord knows that's far from the truth. As my mom always says to me, "Men will always disappoint you - it's how you handle it that matters." Well if I do say so myself, our generation isn't handling this issue very well. The beautiful age of technology we live in actually makes it easier for boys to treat us the way they do. Social media in a way gives our generation of boys the ability to talk to multiple girls, over multiple different types of social media without anyone ever really knowing about it. Nowadays you can snapchat multiple people (and now that the best friends list is gone); no one really knows who you're talking to. So the girls who think the boy they're low-key in love with is only talking to them could be severely misguided.

In the 1950s, there was no such thing as Instagram. Boys couldn't make it obvious that they thought another girl was attractive without actually saying it. Now boys can like a million different girls' pictures and it actually shows up on other peoples notifications that they did so. The idea of a normal relationship where your boyfriend doesn't make any insinuations of flirting with anyone else has become hard to come by. The worst part about this is that there seems to be a growing need for a strong social media presence. I myself am guilty of sometimes feeling like I have to post an Instagram photo to prove I care about someone.

So what's the real problem here? The version of boys that this society has created, the so called f'boys, are slowly but surely ruining America in their own way.

I understand fully that there are bigger problems in our world than just f'boys and their daily behaviors; however the idea of true love and lasting relationships, something the world has always believed in, is in my opinion starting to become somewhat unrealistic because we as a society have fostered the environment that allows the f'boy behavior to flourish.

Social media is just one part of it. That is the base of what allows f'boys to be f'boys. Read receipts for text messages aren't mandatory, so there is always the opportunity for someone to say, "Oh, I just saw this now" 24 hours later, when you know damn well they read it right away and ignored you. Today's day and age makes it cool for guys to have "Mad biddies" on their arm and the more girls that boys have that like them and want to be with them in one way or another, the better the guy looks.

These boys that have the "luxury" of multiple girls interested in them also have the prime opportunity to manipulate that situation however they so please. If they don't want to call you back right away, in their mind they don't have to because you are just an option to them. Just another number in the rotation. With this false idea that every girl is going to magically stay interested and wait around forever because the lavish immaturity of the guy who thinks playing the field and leaving girls waiting for a text back till every hour of the night, comes the false sense of power. What all you f'boys don't realize? We aren't f'ing morons. Believe me, your vineyard vines shirts, cubbies shorts, and Sperry shoes are no match for my f'boy radar. Sure, you could be the Ryan Gosling of our college campus. But I'd rather be with a Ted Moseby than a Barney Stinson, and I think I speak for all girls when I say that.

Fact of the matter is, you just wanna get laid. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But call me in ten years when you're alone and miserable because you're 30 something and the same attitude you had in college is no longer working for you and now you actually want someone to care, and the idea of a real relationship now means something to you.

This is just my personal speculation, but living life with such an entitled an audacious attitude may not be the best once you leave the carefree party college life and enter the real world. In my own experiences I have seen people who wake up feeling entitled to everyone and everything end up crashing and burning once they realize they aren't actually the hot stuff they thought they were.

Imagine if President Obama was an f'boy. I am sure in his day he played the field here and there, but imagine if he kept that attitude going his whole life. I can tell you one thing. I don't think the American people would be too happy about Barack calling up multiple women, asking them on dates, and then never calling again. I know for sure Michelle wouldn't like it. And let's be real here we know who wears the pants in that relationship.

We saw how well the Monica Lewinsky situation worked out for Bill Clinton (one of the OG f'boys I am sure). We also know the reputation George Clooney had for his entire career before finally marrying in his 50's. (He did not look cool for being a serial dater). Picture every figurehead or famous person in U.S. history living their life the same way the adolescent and young adult boys of today do, and just never stopping. I think it'd be safe to assume our country would not have ended up the powerful country it is now if that was the case. The thing is, having had a few boyfriends in my 20 years of life, and having encounters with more f'boys than I can keep track of, I know that this kind of entitled and - for lack of a better term -- douchey behavior can come and go if the f'boy so chooses to actually do this thing called growing up. There can only be one Peter Pan after all, and never never land doesn't actually exist.

So sorry boys, but in the grand scheme of things there is actually nothing cool about being an f'boy. And I know (most of you) probably know that you are. And let me ask you one question. If your dad treated your mom the way you are treating any girl right now (not calling back, only being interested at 2 a.m. when your lonely and bored, never defining the relationship because commitment "scares" you), do you think you'd even have been born? Eh, maybe. Would your mom have tolerated that treatment for very long if she actually married your dad during his f'boy stage? Probably not. Our country already has a significant divorce rate. The way it's looking now, the marriage rate may not be so high in a few years.

I know you boys know how to treat people with respect. I know even more that you know how to treat women with respect, because I highly doubt you go very long without texting your mom back when she wants to know what you're up to. I also know you wouldn't want your dad treating your mom horribly (my parents are divorced and I still can't stand when they talk crap on each other). If that was your sister, I don't think you would want some guy blowing her off and making her catch feelings and then leave her crying. So why is it so cool for you to do that to someone else's sister, someone's daughter, someone's future mom and wife. Potentially your future wife. When it comes down to it, you were brought into the world by a woman, so why would you want to treat any woman poorly?

Sure you're friends may not think you're cool because you only have one girl at the end of the day. But if that girl loves you, I guarantee the love she gives you will feel a lot better than the power trip you'll feel from breaking ten other girls' hearts.

So my piece of advice? Quit while you're behind. Trust me, treating a girl with respect actually goes a long way. You may end up happier than you were when you were treating girls like they were disposable and replaceable.

Truth is, all of you f'boys are actually the replaceable ones. Because somewhere in our society there are nice guys. And all of you boys started out as nice guys too. And those nice guys that stayed nice guys? Just might turn into "Mr. Steal your girls."

SO SAVE THE FUTURE OF AMERICA WHILE YOU STILL CAN!

#stopf'boyseverywhere2015

Sincerely,

A proud American citizen and female that deserves your respect.