I think its only fair that my first post starts off with something I constantly dealt with my first year in college, and believe it or not, many of you might find yourself in the same situation.
See, in high school I was known as the "good girl". My parents sheltered me, and I was always involved in activities that kept me busy and out of trouble. Not to mention I also had a boyfriend who pretty much held me down all of high school (in a good way of course). I am a first generation college student, and had no idea what to except coming into my first year. I did know however that I wanted to have fun and really get the full college experience. With that I decided to rush so I could have a sense of belonging. Sooner than I knew it was the first day of classes, and my new friends had invited me to a party on a Monday night and all of sylly week. I didn't hesitate to say no, I was excited to go out and I had actually been broken up with the same day, so I thought partying would be better than staying home all night crying and fighting over the phone. So I partied that night, just about every night that week, and all throughout the semester, and that's when all the backlash arrived.
These parties were like something I had never seen, the type of parties you see in movies. I obviously posted them on my Snapchat stories and pictures on my Instagram. While I was out living my best life there was people constantly downgrading me just because they didn't agree with what I was doing. People from high school were spreading rumors about me, even the teachers! I would constantly get sent tweets about me, old friends would tell I changed for the worst and they hated the "new" me. However, for the people who actually knew me they supported me 100% and knew I was just as serious about my academics. Everyone just had their image of who I was in high school still in their mind, but many different factors made me blossom into who I am now. For the most part I played the role of "being the bigger person". I deleted people off my snapchat that I knew would stir the pot, I unfollowed many others as well. No matter what I did, those specific few would have only chose to see the bad side of me. I decided the best thing to do was let go of that negativity and work hard to prove them all wrong.
So, I leave you all with this. Maybe the party scene isn't your cup of tea, or maybe you cannot wait to go to your first college party. Whatever the situation might be, just do whats best for you, and what makes you happy. As long as you know exactly what you're doing, don't worry about others say. College is a place to find yourself, and that's going to include lots of lessons along the way. The people who talk down on you are honestly clueless on the whole story, and chances are most of them might be in your exact same position soon. Live your life for yourself, and remember even though college is fun. You do need to find the balance between work and play. No one will be around to tell you what to do, which is both a blessing and a curse.
