I can go anywhere and hear a group of women tear each other apart verbally. As I brought the topic up to a couple of my mentors, I began to hear something that was true. "Girls are so much harsher than men." When you honestly reflect on relationships of the same sex, you think about all the differences. Dr. Seth Meyers, clinical psychologist, says "I can assuredly report that the women I've worked with report more critical views of the other women than the men do with their own male peers." From my experience, when male friends have a disagreement they will talk and/or fight it out then shake hands. Men will carry on like nothing ever happened. But when it comes to females having an argument they will cut down to the bone in order to break the other female down.
I have witnessed from my life that girls will start to tell each other's business if the other girl pushed her buttons. Girls are creatures that react on emotion and action. This article is not speaking about all women, rather the women who sabotage other women due to their own insecurities.
If you say something and it strikes a girl emotionally you will get a reaction. Most of the time when girls are arguing they throw jabs with their words. The cliche saying “Words won’t ever hurt me” has no strength here. Words definitely hurt, especially the way girls use them. There is no actual data on girl hate because no one wants to explore it.
This is a topic where opinion weighs the most, a topic that is so simple but very controversial. It begs the question: "What causes women to act so petty toward each other?" The answer is simple and it is human nature. People are selfish, self-centered creatures who thrive on the suffering and defeat of others and find discomfort when we see qualities in others that we lack.
I mentored a couple of freshmen in school and I continued to find the same problem. They all have witnessed girl hate and have fallen victim in not having pride in themselves. This is important because I want the younger generations to learn to love themselves and not allow girls to bring them down. I want them to grow and be able to be productive in their everyday lives. I have never once found myself secretly wishing hate on another female. I love the person I am and I just learned to love my flaws as well. Girl hate can range from a number of things but there has to be a root. From the beginning of time girls were taught they had to live a certain way. Its as if being born female came with a handbook.
There are three things that cause girl hate: jealousy, insecurity, and competition. There was a certain way we as women had to dress, clothing could not be too tight or too loose, no smoking, no cussing, and no promiscuous behavior. Instead of other girls tearing each other down, we all should grab another girl's hand and try to bring her up.
Food for thought:
"Woman is not born: she is made" -Andrea Dworkin
