Why Do We See Our Flaws, As Flaws?
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Why Do We See Our Flaws, As Flaws?

We didn't just come out of the womb hating our reflections, so what happened?

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Why Do We See Our Flaws, As Flaws?
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Flaws -- those annoying little critters we refer to as insecurities. Whether it be our droopy eyes, being too slim or too chunky, too tall or too short -- everybody has them. Nobody is 100% satisfied with themselves, but where does it all come from? Why do we think of our flaws, as flaws?

Are we just programmed with these feelings of inadequacy from birth, or do they surface later on in life after being exposed to societal beauty standards?

Who taught us this? Who taught us to hate our own reflections in the mirror so much that we feel the need to cake on the makeup until we don't even look like us in order to simply feel okay about ourselves? Was it society; was it our parents? And if it was our parents, they most likely learned it from society. It all somehow comes back to society. Without stuff like beauty magazines or diet supplement commercials, I doubt there'd be insecurity. I'd consider insecurity a learned behavior because it is. We learn to feel less than good enough. Society profits on our pain

And what do we do when we're told these things? We hide. We do whatever it takes to conceal those so-called flaws. We even begin to see ourselves strictly as those flaws; not a unique individual with passions and dreams -- just a flaw. We possess the incapacity to look beyond it and see that even through there are not-so-perfect things about us, there as also many perfect things about us as well. That's the issue; we dwell on the negative until we can't see any positives.

I'm still working on that myself. Another issue is that no matter how hard we work on ourselves, there will always be that tiny voice that criticizes us. It always seems to creep up again. That's one demon that doesn't go away. Sure; you can silence him for a while, but he's never gone completely. We're happy with ourselves until society tells us that we shouldn't be.

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