Why Do We Long so Much for the Past?

Why Do We Long so Much for the Past?

We always think the world was once better, but was it really?

It seems that all we ever want to do as Americans is go back to the past, where we believe things were simpler, or better. Sure, there were plenty of things that were great about our past, but why do we feel like it was necessarily better than the present that we have now?

People like Trump and all of his supporters love to say, “Make America Great Again.” But why not just say “make a better America” or something along those lines? Why do we feel the need to go back in time instead of push for positive and progressive change?

Sure, we were more social back then before cell phones, and we claimed we liked family values more in the past before sex and violence began to flood our media, but in all honesty, it’s probably just this romanticized idea of what life was like in the 1950s that we love more than the actual era itself. The past had just as many problems as we have now, and overtime we pushed to fix those problems, yet now when we face new social challenges, we don’t seem to think how can we fix these, we seem to just want to go back in time to this romanticized idea of the perfect era that was the 1950’s.

We act like our past was just another episode of the classic sitcoms that America loved back then. We believe that everyone was a bunch of wholesome family people who always had Dad there to make sure that Johnny or Sally got a date to the school dance, where they made sure to leave room for the Holy Spirit. A time when things like drugs or criminals weren’t even a problem.

We love to think of this as the past, and while this is all good, it’s not real. The 1950s weren’t all apple pie in the sky, they were also an era where women had fewer rights, and African Americans had almost none. If you think racial profiling is bad now, imagine a time when you were arrested for being African American and sitting in the front of the bus. If you think sexual harassment and the glass ceiling were bad now, imagine a time where women could only hope to get a job as a secretary or a nurse and sexual harassment wasn’t even a phrase yet.

Now, I’m not saying that we are perfect now, but we have to admit we have gone far as far as equality goes, and we still have work to do. And sure, we all would love to live in a world where people were a little more modest and families were closer, but we can’t keep pretending that the 1950’s we fantasize about as we listen to our Frank Sinatra records and tell stories about the Great Eisenhower, was reality. We had problems then and we have problems now. We have climate change and still a struggle with inequality, and I don’t think that those will be solved by going back to driving heavier steel cars that get eight miles to the gallon and bringing back segregation.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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