OK, so you all have probably seen the posts, memes, etc. over the years of Blair Waldorf and Serena Van Der Woodsen, saying that they are #BFFGoals. I for one am absolutely a fan of "Gossip Girl," and I do enjoy seeing the fun and sometimes sweet moments between "S" and "B."But, I would still absolutely not classify them as best friend goals. Sorry, not sorry.
If those of you who are reading have never seen the popular TV series, "Gossip Girl," that ran from 2007-2012, let me give you a brief summary. The show features two upper class high-school girls who are supposed "best friends" from the Upper East Side of New York City. "Gossip Girl" is entertaining because viewers are gifted with an insight into all of their drama filled lives. Episode after episode, their friends and family add to this drama. The show takes us through relationship issues, friendships, scandals and more. Drama, drama, drama! However, the majority of the drama on the show seems to happen between Blair and Serena. Throughout the entire series, they outwardly talk horribly about each other, lie to each other, are jealous, conniving, and always in a competition to one up the other. Yes, they have their sweet moments and are still somehow always there for each other in the end. But I'm sorry, they still are NOT total friend goals.
This is not what a best friend is supposed to be. A best friend is the person whose best interest you always put first, even before yourself. You don't talk badly about your friends to make yourself look better, and you don't scheme and undermine them or act offended when they find out and are angry at you for it. Blair and Serena were awful to each other the entire show. In fact, that's what makes up at least half of the story plot! And yet, because of their high profile lifestyle, and the times when they do actually get along, they are still labeled by their viewers as #BFFGoals? This just goes to show how twisted the idea of what a best friend should be has gotten. This friendship that so many people are infatuated with is just not how it is meant to be.
People should not base their #BFFGoals off of this extremely toxic friendship between Serena and Blair. Ya'll, find a best friend that encourages you always, who isn't constantly jealous of your success but is instead happy for you. Someone who you can trust with anything, and someone who won't use the things you tell them against you.
I do love the show , and (Spoiler Alert) by the end of the show, I do think they might have figured out how to treat each other better and actually behave like best friends. But even so, I certainly won't be basing any of my friendships off of the show, and you shouldn't either.
xoxo- Mary Claire
