Often times I feel that a lot of Christians joke that they can’t wait for the Lord to return, but they just hope they get to be married first. I will admit I have been one of these people, but it is such a wrong perspective on life. We are looking at marriage as the ultimate goal in life and not to further the kingdom of Christ and bring glory to him. Now don’t get me wrong, marriage is not a bad thing. I just think that we are beginning to treat marriage as an idol and not what it is really made for, to show the glory of God through the relationship and to show a clear presentation of the relationship between Jesus and his bride, the body of Christ.
I think we need to remember that there is so much more to life than getting married. This time, that we have being single is not to be consumed by searching for our future spouse. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul talks about how he actually wishes how people were in this state of singleness just like he was. When you are single, you secure a less distracted devotion to God. When you are single, you should be anxious about the things of the Lord, rather than when you are in a relationship, you are being anxious about worldly things and pleasing your significant other.
I feel like so often I myself, and I assume many others as well, get so caught up in who God has in store for me in the future instead of focusing on my already established relationship with him and growing in it. In reality, how can I even expect to have a godly man pursue me when I’m not seeking out to be a godly woman myself? When you are single you have this prime opportunity to just be fully devoted to the Lord and to be used by him in numerous ways. You are not yet responsible for anybody else but your own self. Your ultimate purpose in life is to glorify God in everything that you do. In this chapter of singleness, you have so many opportunities to do just that.
So stop missing this chapter of your life by desiring the next one. The next one is not your final destination. Life isn’t all of a sudden sunshine and roses because you are now in a relationship, or married. Your state of life right now should revolve around you and your relationship with your Heavenly Father. Read his words. Talk to him. See how he wants you to be used for the furtherance of his kingdom. Let him use you. This time of being single is NOT a bad thing. It is an important chapter of your life that does not need to be skipped. So use it to your advantage if you are single right now and be thankful for this chapter of your life. It’s such a great experience once you are living it for how it’s intended for and not just for what you want.
