Why We Are Forgetting Our Children On Buses And In Vehicles

Why We Are Forgetting Our Children On Buses And In Vehicles

What is making parents and caregivers forget to check for children on buses and in vehicles

Why are we so distracted? why are we forgetting about the children? In Carl Junction Missouri last week a 4-year-old boy was left on the school bus. Found two hours later, cold and alone but otherwise unharmed. Not all stories like this have a happy conclusion. In Arkansas last year a disabled child was left to die in the sweltering heat, still buckled into his daycare bus. Are we so distracted by social media and smartphones that we are losing track of what is the most important, the children entrusted to our care?

Headlines like Ridgefield child dies after being left in hot car, or Child Dies After Being Left In Vehicle, worse yet, Yet another child has died after being left in a hot car toll reaches 19 so far this year. Brings most adults to tears thinking about the lives lost, to such preventable tragedies, and leaving us to question why is it that we are forgetting our children.

Without bringing shame to the parents who have left their children, it is important to open a dialog. What has changed over the last ten to fifteen years that has led to more children being left in vehicles to die? It could be a combination of how vehicles are built and how distracted adults have become. With smartphones and WIFI, we are spending more and more of our time with our heads in the “Cloud” distracted by social media, video games, and 24-hour news.

The worlds unlimited knowledge at our fingertips and in a device so small that it fits in our back pockets. Can smartphones be making us less smart, or at least making it easier for us to forget the small children in our care?

It's not just parents that are leaving their children in vehicles. Last summer a five-year-old boy died when his caregivers at his private school forgot him on the school bus. The little boy was disabled, and news reports stated that when he was found he had taken his shirt, shoes, and socks off to cool down, but because he was disabled and security measures in the van he wasn’t able to get out, instead he suffered an unimaginable death.

Every summer we are told to put a shoe or our purse in the back seat with our children to remind us they are there and prevent tragedy from happening. However, is it disingenuous to say that we will remember our shoes and our purse but not our children? Questioning these safety measures can lead some to believe that we are bashing parents who use them to ensure their child’s safety.

However, that isn’t what we are intending to do. If leaving an object in the back seat of the car helps you remember your child that is wonderful. What this is about though is understanding why we have become so distracted that we are forgetting our children. This isn’t the first generation that has had to use childcare or had to work odd hours or long hours.

Yet in the last ten to fifteen years, the number of children forgotten in vehicles seems to have exponentially grown. Are there more children being left behind or is the news more frequent because we have 24-hour news reports and instant news on our smartphones and tablets?

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I used to just laugh it off when someone thought I was 12 years old back when I was in high school, but now that I am three years deep into college getting ready to graduate, I don’t laugh anymore. If you are in the same situation as me looking like a child trying to get into a bar/club and the bouncer is questioning if your ID is fake, please read on — you may relate very much. Here are 11 things 20+ year-olds who look 12 are tired of hearing:

1. I didn’t know they let 12-year-olds work here.

Nope. They don’t.

2. What school do you go to?

Me: Florida State.

Person: University?!

3. *Tries to get a sample at Target* Is your parent nearby?

Let me FaceTime my mom really quick and ask her permission for this protein bar sample.

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4. *Server at a restaurant* Here you go, sweetie. What can I get you, darling? Hi, honey, how are you?

You are no more than three years older than me, there is no need for "sweetie."

5. It’s your birthday? Happy Birthday! How old now, fourteen/fifteen?

6. You look so much older when you wear makeup.

Is that supposed to be a compliment?

7. Wow, you're how old? You look like you are twelve.

Have you seen a twelve-year-old lately?

8. You probably just look young because you're short.

9. *Tries to flirt with a guy* You're a little too young for me I think.

I'm your age. Maybe even older.

10. Are you old enough to see this movie? Can I see your ID please?

11. You're going to be so thankful when you are in your 50's.

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5 Tips For Handling A Quarter Life Crisis

Don't know what to do with your life, me either


I thought I had my entire life figured out; career, graduate school, moving. All of it. But maybe I was wrong. I have already been accepted to graduate school, have my internship/capstone figured out but then I was given an opportunity of a lifetime to do a different internship that made me question if my plan was the right plan for me. It was terrifying, stressful and difficult to figure out what to do because it affects the rest of my life. But there are some tips you can do to keep your cool.



Write that shit down. Take a piece of paper and plan out where each path could take you and the steps you need to take to get to each goal on the path. Seeing it all on paper will slow you down and help determine if what you're thinking is even an option.

2.    Talk to people


Talk it out, talk to your friends, your family, your advisor. Talk to anyone you can about your plan. You will hear other people's opinions and thoughts. They may have thought of a factor that you didn't. It will help you better understand your thoughts when you explain your tornado brain to someone else.

 3.    Be Open


This was REALLY hard for me. I talked to probably five different people about the change in life choices and heard both positive and negative thoughts. It is important to be open and listen to the negative idea even if it seems like you're being attacked. It will make you think, are you really prepared for 4-8 more years of school (or whatever else it may be).

 4.    Breathe and Stress Relieve 


YES, this is 100% one of the biggest most stressful decision you have to make but it is also incredibly important that you are patient, and calm throughout the entire process. It is easier said than done, trust me but take five steps back, seven deep breaths and 20 minutes to relieve the built-up stress. Go to the gym, listen to music, paint, do whatever is going to put a smile on your face and calm you. Then come back to the problem with a clear head to think and process all the options.

5.    Don’t be afraid


It is literally terrifying when you feel lost, and unsure of what to do with your life. Especially if your family is super strict and you want to keep everyone happy. But REMEMBER it is YOUR life. YOUR future. You have to worry about what is the best option for you and what will make you happy in the long run. Even if it is harder and going to take longer. Be concerned about YOURSELF and not what anyone else thinks of you.

Quarter life crises are totally normal and not fun. Don't feel like you're alone or a failure for being unsure. It is good to explore all your options and be the happiest you can be. If that takes a little freak out and some stress so is it. Just use these steps to make the best of it.

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