Two days ago as I was scrolling through my Facebook news feed I saw a video that caught my attention, so I began to watch in it a woman is staring directly into a camera as her son walks behind her but there is something different. The black eye she is sporting confused to as why she had a black eye I watched slowly the video was posted by Emma Murphy a woman who explains that she has been married to the man that she believed was the love of her life, she explains that when she found that her husband was cheating on her she confronted him and he retorted by punching her in the face, she explains that she forgave him hoping that he would change, but he didn't so she left him. She states at one point that she is posting this video because she feels like she needs to let woman out there know that living in fear and allowing a man to hurt you is not okay, she explains that woman should stand against abuse and never allow a man to hit her.
You see the problem today is that many woman will allow their husbands to hit them and go on with their lives and see nothing wrong with it, there are many who take the verbal, emotional and physical abuse. The idea that these woman would take such behavior from another human being that more a man is baffling to me i could not imagine why anyone would allow such a thing.
The only way to actually explain this is to state that sometimes these woman like Emma that they must forgive a man because they believe that they are doing the right thing that maybe if they forgive them they will change. But this is far from the truth most of the men that hit a woman once will more likely to do it again. Most of them feel as if though they can keep these woman they are hurting at their side because they are able to convince them that they can change. Once forgiven they fall into the same behavior as they were already exhibiting.
Many people would argue that when stuff like this occurs with in a relationship, should stay within a relationship, some might even judge Emma for speaking out like this stating that it is actions like this one that provoked the men that beat to do so. But those people are wrong.
Nothing justifies assaulting a woman at all, no amount of talk back or standing up for yourself. Fortunately Emma left the man who abused her and is now living a happy life with her children. Unfortunately being abused by a man can lead to many traumas, the abuse can leave a woman feeling helpless and this can even lead to mental illness such as depression or even anxiety disorders.
I can say without a doubt that I agree with Emma no woman should ever allow a man to lay a hand on her. I definitely agree that woman should take a stand together to stop men from hurting them whether it be emotionally, verbally or physically. Don't allow a man to take control of your life if you know it isn't right it probably isn't.
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