Why It's Absolutely Awesome To Be Single In College

Why It's Absolutely Awesome To Be Single In College


We've all been there. Your best friends are constantly texting their boyfriends, hanging out with their boyfriends, or even worse: talking about their boyfriends…to you… all of the time. You feel so helplessly single and alone. Every guy you've tried to date in college ended up being a total loser and you feel like it's you. Every time you come home for break, your mom isn't helping either. It's always “I saw Ann's daughter is in a relationship on Facebook!!! Do you have a boyfriend yet?? Why don't you have a boyfriend? Have you met any nice boys???"

But its not you, and you are so lucky. Not having a boyfriend in college is a blessing in disguise. You're never going to look back at these four years wishing you had a boyfriend to keep you from doing everything you wanted to do. College is when you find yourself. You can go out whenever you want, meet the most interesting people, find lifelong friends, travel the world, study absolutely anything you find appealing, join any club you can think of and live on your own. Its the first time in your life you don't have rules or curfews or anyone holding you back. Make the most of it. Be with your friends. Go out on the weekends and take the night on. College is the one chance you get to get everything out of your system. There are thousands upon thousands of people at your school. You are going to meet a different group of boys every single day. There is no reason you shouldn't be able to date here and there, and figure out who you want to be when you are older and who you want to be with. College is about making mistakes and trying things out. If you are with one person throughout all of these four years, what have you possibly learned about yourself? Chances are, the person you are with has influenced everything you think you like. Its quite possibly the best thing ever to be single throughout college. By the time you are ready for a committed relationship in the future, you wont look back at these four years and feel like you missed out on anything.

You learn from your friends' mistakes. Nothing makes you more thankful for being single than your favorite t-shirt stained in your best friends mascara from crying on your shoulder all night. I'm sure all of us single girls can't even count on both hands the amount of days we've spent consoling our friends about their loser boyfriends. All of the times they spent at that amazing party fighting with their boyfriend or texting them the entire time when you're out on a fun trip. Being single in college, you'll never get your heart broken. You'll never have to worry about sharing your bed or eating an entire carton of ice-cream with your girlfriends with no makeup on. You can binge-watch Netflix for three days straight and absolutely nobody will judge you. You can make the most out of your college experience because, let's face it; any committed relationship is a full-time job.

Finally, there is nothing worse than a single girl who hates being single. Embrace it. You are single by choice and there's nothing sexier than that. You'll develop higher standards and you'll feel more confident knowing everything you are doing is for yourself. You'll become independent and achieve great things in life without the added distractions of a relationship. You'll have the time to do everything you have always wanted to do. Make a bucket list and finish it throughout college. Life is short. Take these four years and make the most out of them. Great things come when you stop looking for them, so have a hell of a good time in between.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become.

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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