Who doesn’t think about the one? It's human nature to desire companionship. When we do, we picture someone who can be our other better half, our lifelong best friend. Our souls belonging to another soul. But is there just one that each of us are truly meant for? Or are there multiple souls out there that mesh equally with our own, just waiting to be the one that completes us?
Whichever destiny you decide to believe in, believe in your own ability to choose the one that is right for you. Not just the guy that opens the door, buys the flowers, and always brings a card to the anniversary date. Although these are all desirable, ideal things, they’re not all that matter.
Consider the spark. Is it a spark of interest? Peace? Bliss? Utter longing? Whatever your spark is, own it. If it’s one you’d regret not trying to kindle in the long run, go for it; there’s no way to live and learn without taking chances. Let someone’s eyes compel you, a smile comfort you, an expression touch you. Sometimes you can’t even explain what you see in a person, it’s just the way they take you to a place where no one else can.
What does it mean to have things in common with someone? Of course there are multiple levels of commonalities... Do you just attend the same school, or do your majors coincide with overlapping interests? Did you just have the same candidate written on your presidential ballots, or do you truly share fundamental beliefs? Are you both willing to grow a family? Share a common faith?
Does your one meet all your standards and simply amaze you? You find pieces of them in every song, and associate little everyday moments with vignettes of beautiful memories… struggling not to get too caught up in the ideas of what could be.
The one should adore you, maybe with compliments or in a non-vocal way that you both can just feel. He should treat you with respect, letting you be your independent self or learning to grow together. Most importantly, he should love you… even for the flaws, for the arguments, for your own personal dreams and desires.
I think the right person is almost a perfect representation of contradiction. The one should make you feel grounded and free at the same time. Giving you enough energy to feel completely alive, and enough comfort to feel so utterly still. When you’re lost in him, you’re finding yourself.
The one gives you something that you don’t want with anyone else. They can touch you without using hands and see the truth and beauty of your soul with their eyes closed. It’s okay to be scared, but you have to get out there, open up, love, make mistakes, learn, be stronger, and start all over again.
