I have never been one to make promises. In high school I learned to not make promises and to not believe anyone who promised anything to me. I have made my life a little bit better for myself. I have been able to let go often and not get too attached to people or things that seemed right in the moment but not for the long run. I know that it may seem a little dramatic or maybe a way some do not want to live, but it is something that I have learned from past mistakes or experiences.

I do not believe that you should lower your expectations for anyone or anything. Many people have negative responses and interpretations but why have expectations of things that are not in your control? We are all cautious of some things whether it is because of lack of trust or loyalty or we are just skeptical. Both parties whether you are doing the promising or being promised benefit from avoiding promising anything at all. You do not have to be held accountable. We all have our intentions, but at the end of the day there are actions and situations that occur in which we do not have much control over.

It is a lot easier to say things than to follow them through. I believe that it is very selfish of us to allow someone to make these promises and that it is very impulsive of us to make them. There are no relationships that are immune to this. Family relationships like between moms and dads and their children, friends or best friends, and romantic relationships. It is just a part of the human condition. We are not perfect and that is perfectly acceptable. There are so many versions of us throughout our lifetimes that we lose track of who we are. We lose ourselves in circumstances and other human beings that at the end of the day we cannot take other people with us when they have their own paths to follow.

My moral compass always tells me that the intentions we have are the ones that should be held true, but we cannot avoid what we feel at the end of the day.