Leaving can be one of the hardest things someone can do. Whether it's leaving a job, leaving a town, or leaving a relationship. It will be hard, but sometimes you need to be selfish. Just like Mr. Feeny said, "Because I thought if I left it there, it would stop growing." Everyone has room to grow, but if you're left in the same small place you've always been then you're not going to grow.
Whether you're the one who is unhappy in the relationship, you're the "3rd party" in it or have a third party.
Some are in a relationship because they are scared that if they were to leave that person then that person would suffer and wouldn't be able to go about their day normally. They are scared that they themselves are the only reason why that person gets up everyday. If that may be true then so be it. That person needs to learn how to live their life without relying on their significant other. We are all adults here in the 21st century, we do not need someone else to rely on in a relationship.
Some stay in a relationship just because it's comfortable. They're scared of starting over so they feel as though they need to stay. You were put on this earth to grow as a person in your own unique way, and if there is someone who is putting you down and not helping you achieve the standards you want to achieve, then leave.
Then there are the cheaters in the relationship. The ones who want their cake and eat it too. They are the ones who don't care about their relationship whatsoever. They will cheat on whoever they are with but then seem perfectly happy with them the next day on social media. My question is why? Why do it? If you're so unhappy, then just leave. Don't bring a third party into because in the end the other two are going to get hurt. Not you. If it's an ex you're still in love with then so be it. Don't pretend everything is fine with them then turn around to sneak off in someone else's bed.
When you're younger you always get asked "What do you want to be when you grow up?" You've always pictured your perfect future with your perfect career. But as college goes by and classes get harder you've realized your dream job has become more and more faint. So, you graduate college and you're stuck in a job you didn't exactly want. Now it's become two, five, even 10 years later and you're still dreaming about that dream you had when you were 12. It can still happen. You can still move on from that lame job you're at and find the perfect one you want. Because you're still young. From whatever age you may feel like. You are still just getting started, you can still do what you want because why be unhappy with something you can change? You can always change where you are. You're not a tree, so move.
I moved 1,450 miles away from my hometown for college. I was terrified. I almost didn't make the move but I saw a picture on Instagram saying "If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree." And to me it was a sign because I was so scared about leaving everything behind. From my job, to my home, to my friends, to the "love of my life" I was terrified of making that big step and going more towards my ultimate goal in life. Moving is hard, not going to lie. It is so worth the happiness you hope to have. You may think you're stuck where you are but you're only stuck where you tell yourself you're stuck. There are a lot of miles in this world, and there has to be somewhere that you feel yourself in. For me, I've found it. Everyone will find their own, it's only if they take that step to make the move that they will find their home.
I know I still have so much to learn, but from what I have learned so far is to be yourself, be happy, and do what you want to do. No matter what people think, no matter what you hear, be yourself, and the rest will fall into place.
