When You're Feeling Unattractive, Read This

When You're Feeling Unattractive, Read This

Beauty is a concept, not a physical thing.


Sometimes, I feel fabulous

When I look in the mirror, I am pleased with what I see. I love the shape of my face, the way that my brown hair catches the light and makes it streaked with gold. I love the colors of my eyes and how they remind me of a dense forest in spring when life begins anew after a long winter. Finally, I love the shape of my body. I love it's uniqueness, how no one else has this body that I possess.

When I have days like this, I feel absolutely beautiful. I feel like no man is worthy of my heavenly beauty or vivacious personality. But, of course, not every day is perfect. Some days, the demons that live within our minds and begin pointing out every minuscule flaw that they can find.

"Look how stringy your hair is, looks like someone is beginning to go bald."

"I see that your muffin top is bulging over the side of your jeans."

"Uh oh, looks like the medium is too tight. I guess you'll have to go to an extra large."

"Your brown eyes remind me of a freshly dropped cow pie."

When we begin to hear these voices, it's hard to tune them out since they're the loudest speakers in the room. It also doesn't help when we see "conventionally" attractive people getting everything they want out of life while we "normies" are left with a sandwich and a bag of half-eaten chips. It can be hard when the world wants us to look a certain way but we don't "look" that way because we didn't win the genetic lottery. We've been told over and over again that beauty is only "skin deep" and we shouldn't judge ourselves based on the images in magazines and on TV. While that's some decent advice to go by, there comes a time that phrase becomes overused and trite. So, instead of thinking of beauty as being within, why don't we try this:

Define your own type of beauty.

Look in the mirror and turn what you perceive to be flaws into what makes you unique. Have an "ugly" scar on your lip? Turn it into your battle scar from when you fought a bear with your bare hands. Think you have too many freckles? They're just many kisses from the sun because he loves you. You feel like you're too curvy? You're the next Botticelli muse who will appear as Venus in his newest painting.

Beauty is completely made up and isn't defined by one definite answer. We perceive beauty how we want to see it. When we begin to focus on our uniqueness rather than what makes us "unattractive", we'll begin to see that we're all individual pieces of art that bring beauty and diversity to our dull world. I know it sounds absolutely cheesy, but it's the truth. Looking beautiful for the attention of others isn't important: what's important is loving yourself first and celebrating yourself.

Cheer up, gorgeous: you're doing just fine.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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7 Little Forms Of Self-Care You Can Do On The Daily

Everyone has bad days, let's make them a little better!


The truth is everyone has at least one bad day in their lives. Even though some don't want to admit it, there are small things that everyone can do to make their bad days a little bit brighter.

1. Write encouraging notes/quotes in your planner.

I found that writing small notes of encouragement above random days in my planner makes me smile when I'm stressing in lecture.

2. Find a great new song to listen to.

For me, perusing Spotify for a random playlist, whether it be a throwback song that I forgot about or a brand new song by an artist that I never listened to can brighten my day.

3. Clearing your desk and starting fresh.

Small things like organizing and clearing my desk make me feel a lot better. I clean off the trash and random papers that don't need my attention at that very moment and I'm ready to restart. Even putting my tabs into OneTab, an add on for most computers that files your open tabs, and focusing on one class at a time is relaxing.

4. Lighting a new candle/putting a new scent in your diffuser.

A new scent can actually change the mood that you are in. I just changed the wax in my warmer and I already feel more open to what is next to come.

5. Make your bed.

If it isn't a habit of yours already, just make your bed. It is much more refreshing to come back to your room to a nice bed rather than just wanting to jump in and forget all your responsibilities.

6. Call your mom, grandma, or grandpa.

Just hearing my mom's voice makes me feel a lot better. Even if it is "time consuming", I promise you will feel so much better!

7. Clean out your phone.

Delete old pictures, apps, social media, and contacts that you don't need or want anymore. By doing so, it will open up more space on your phone and open more head space.

No matter how bad your day is, just know that it will get better!

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