There are some days where you just want to scream. Rain is already pouring on your parade. We’ve all had those days. There are some people who we love, more than the sun and moon, who will drive us up the wall and make us wish for a spacecraft to beam us up past the sun and moon and nestle into our own isolated planet. There are some days where, whether or not you’re having a rainy day, even the ones you love will make an A- in your book. Wait, what book? Are we keeping track now of our loved one's faults? What is an A-, when were we even grading them? When there are days you treat your loved one like an A-, chances are you and your partner will feel like an F and your spacecraft will come hurling back to earth and at that point, you may not want to bother with it anymore. However, if something isn’t broken, why throw it away? Why throw away something so beautiful and flawed in one fit of anger? Here is my A+ advice from experience on what to do to avoid arguments from hasty, careless judgments and how to make even the sour days feel sweet.
When your loved one is upset, let them be. Avoid assumptions and avoid a lifetime of regret. After you've both calmed down, make a cup of hot cocoa and ask him what's wrong. When your loved one is being hyper, he's happy. Even if you're in a crummy mood, you can be sad but let him love you. When your loved one is repeating phrases, perhaps they're uncomfortable or feel like you're not listening, so reassure them. When your loved one seems to have a bizarre idea, instead of shaking your head, join in. If you want to hug your loved one and they pull away, remember not everyone may have been kind to them. If your loved one is seemingly overexcited over something you've done before but they haven't, be proud of them. He's trying to show you what he's learned. And if their moods swing, go on the swing with them instead of criticizing because this morning you two had decided on a picnic in the sunny weather but now, they simply can't. Communicate openly and never be afraid to add an extra 'I love you' just because you do. It's so easy to want to give up some days, to eye roll and to overall dismiss their feelings completely because you feel like you're right all the time. It's so easy to want to let go which is why it's not just love holding a relationship but commitment, my boyfriend likes to say; If you let go of constant expectations of what love should be, you'll be perfectly 100% happy all the time.
Love should be rocky, it should challenge you. Love should be a roller coaster of delight and it should also be a calm after a storm. Love encompasses many things but none of them are hurtful toward each other. A kind gesture in place of an angry, careless word is so easy to do. What point does it serve in love? We have the power to build up each other, encourage and we have the ability to love and be loved. With that knowledge, I encourage you to say kind words to your partner not just on their outfit but because of their leadership skills with specific examples or their gentleness. Sometimes, we don't know every piece of baggage our partner carries and vice versa. Remember, if some days don't live up to that 'calm after the storm' presence, ask yourself if you're returning it. Do you calm him in his storm? Find the stars in the storm and on them, count the reasons why you love him and tell him. He's put up with your shows he doesn't care about a thousand times and still feigns some interest, why not put their favorite movie on now and then? Why not just smile at each other in comfortable silence? With this advice, even on the terrible days, you will no doubt you love each other and know exactly why you two wanted to be together after all, which needs no words. And with that peace, you can be assured you'll have that love which can be worth more than any grade on the grading scale, priceless.
