When writing this, I only speak for my own personal relationship with my mother and give my opinions based off of observations that I have made with friends and family members. Every girl has a different relationship with her mother. I cannot speak for everyone. Whether it be good or bad, it’s fair to say that without our mothers we would not be alive.
It was your typical, warm Florida day with not a single cloud in sight and the strong sun beating down. As I sat on my desk chair gazing out the window, watching the rings form in the pond as tiny dragon flies landed on the surface of the water, I thought about how I’d much rather be outside than in my dim, cold bedroom studying for my midterms. Then suddenly, I looked down at the windowsill and realized it was filthy dirty.
“Can someone bring me the Lysol wipes?!” I yelled from my room to the kitchen, praying someone could hear me so I didn’t have to bear the sight of this filthy mess any longer.
It was in that moment I realized, I was turning into my mother.
In your teenage days, you swore to yourself you’d never be like her, but then you move out and realize that you do, say, and think exactly like she does. You might have said to yourself time and again, “I will never be like my mom.” But the fact of the matter is, you will, in some way, be like your mother. Maybe you realize it now, or maybe you will when you have a family of your own and you, yourself are a mother.
Do you know how lucky you are, to have the reassurance that one day you may become even half the woman that you mother is? Because no matter how much you and your mother “butt heads” you should always remember that you wouldn’t be the person you are if it weren’t for her, and you wouldn’t have the things that you have if it weren’t for her doing her part as a parent. You are the motivation for all of her hard work. Our mothers would do anything for us, no matter how ridiculous and crazy we are.
I feel, as though, there is truly no way that I could ever repay my mother for what she has done for me. The amount of hard work, selflessness, generosity, and kindness that my mom demonstrates on a daily basis never goes unnoticed. Although they may not always show it, at the end of the day our mothers love us unconditionally.
Moms are great for lots of things, venting about your problems, giving the honest advice that you need to hear, and accepting you no matter what mistakes you make. You notice you’re becoming your mom when you start to say the same phrases as her or when someone does something ridiculous and you and her have the same judgment and opinions about it. Maybe its just genetics, or maybe it’s because she was the most influential woman in your life growing up, whatever it may be it’s something you cannot undo.
Realizing you're becoming your mother may be scary, but one things for sure, you're so blessed.
