“You’re picky.”
“You don’t have a boyfriend yet?”
“Girl, when are you going to get married?”
Even worse than these prying questions, some people don’t even ask anymore.
I’ve heard the above statements on countless occasions. I’ve been single a long time and now that many of my friends are getting married and engaged, the empty space at my side is becoming more apparent.
So why does this path of waiting suddenly feel like I’ve waded out of the winding river in which I have to trust God to survive and am fighting the upstream current to shore—a way in which I can give up fighting.
Because I’ve taken my focus off the end. I’ve taken my focus off the goal. I’ve taken my focus off of God’s perfect design.
After graduating high school and finishing two years at a community college, I transferred to the senior college I attend now. I wasn’t naïve to the fact that this school often rolls out as many preachers and teachers as it does students graduating with diplomas in one hand and wedding bands on the other.
A few months passed and to say the least, I was a little disappointed that I hadn’t met The One yet. In my mind, if I didn’t meet him here like I most certainly thought I would, where would I meet him?
I was a little heartbroken.
If I don’t meet someone at the college of the epitome of love and marriage, where would I meet him? I began to think, “It’s so unfair.”
But then God recently has spoken to my heart. Of course to be in the relationship that I desire: marrying a godly man to lead us in God’s direction, I have to wait for both of us to be ready. More than that though, the time before meeting my future husband is just as important.
This path of waiting is to glorify God and grow in my relationship with Him.
(Hint, hint—purpose).
I can’t say it’s unfair because God uniquely places us on different directions for our lives that each glorify and honor Him the best.
To be honest, this life is not about us anyway; it’s about God.
If I can hold out during this waiting and let God answer my prayers in His time, He gets the praise. If I wait for the perfect plans to unfold as the time they should, He gets the praise. If I trust Him in time of my life that I feel useless and alone, He gets the praise.
So why shouldn’t I follow His lead?
Why shouldn’t you?
It doesn’t have to be the path of waiting for Mr. Right. It can be any path God has placed before you.
God knows best. He knows what path I should be on even when I’m fighting the currents.
For you reader, when you feel useless in any particular season of your life, that’s not necessarily the case. God has plans for you even in the waiting.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9
