We all have experienced those times where something goes wrong especially a way in which we could never have imagined. I am the first to support someone when something goes wrong in his or her life that makes him or her upset and feel hopeless.
It is always easy for me to say "everything happens for a reason" to my friends, but I can never make myself believe that.
How are others suppose to believe me when I do not even believe myself?
The pressures of being involved, finding an internship or job for the summer, and having social responsibilities pile on top of each other. If one thing goes wrong...everything seems to come crashing down.
This year has been A YEAR, for me at least. It is hard to recover from constant shut down, but when you have such a supportive group of friends everything gets easier with time.
Sometimes I wonder why me? What am I doing wrong? What about me is not good enough? I have realized, doing that to myself hurts me so much more.
Everything does happen for a reason, and no, nothing about you is wrong. People make mistakes, do not get positions they were extremely excited about, are hurt by people they care about, but none of this is a reason to be upset.
Everything that you may deem horrible now will seem minuscule in the end when something comes along that you may not have been able to do if you received that position or ended up with that person.
For my birthday, my sorority big gave me the "path of life" ring from Alex and Ani. Trust me I was in tears when she told me why she gave me that ring for specific reasons. I have been shut down so many times this year I thought nothing good could ever happen to me again.
When I received that ring, it gave me hope. Hope that something good was to come. Hope that truly everything does happen for a reason. Indeed, good came and it finally clicked that everything does happen for a reason. After being turned down from a sorority position I have wanted since I was a potential new member (PNM) here at the University of South Carolina, I received an internship that with the other position I would not have been able to accept due to the time conflict.
I was appointed a position in my sorority after being turned away from a few, and I have met people I would not have been able to meet if I limited myself to the people I met freshmen year.
No, not everything works out in your favor. You have to push the bad things to the side and celebrate the good things. If you too have had A YEAR, trust me, everything gets better with time.
You can take a day or two to yourself, but forget about the bad and think about everything good that has come your way. Smile. This can apply to anything in life, so take the advice and apply it to what you wish.
Be happy with who and what you have in life because those who truly care will be by your side no matter what. No one gets everything he or she wants, but what you do get in life is what you are meant to have. Take every experience as a learning experience and apply that to future endeavors.
