Bedtime is a sacred ritual that everyone enjoys. It is the time of the day where you finally unwind from a stressful day, put your head on a pillow, and dream about dating a hot movie star. To me this time is very important because I know that If I do not get my beauty sleep, I will wake up and be the last person you want to see during the day. So... when I get married, I know that my husband will be sleeping in a separate bed. Don't judge, just listen.

When I go to bed every night it is a time for me to relax and reflect on the day. I might do a meditation and or watch a movie that I know will put me to sleep. So when I get married, which only God knows when that will happen, I do not want this to be interrupted.

I don't want to be sleeping and all of the sudden my husband kicks my leg and wakes me up. Even worse, they pull all the sheets from me and I wake up thinking I am in Alaska during winter.

I also feel that when I go to bed it is a time for me to just have me time. No one is there to strike up a conversation about the recent bull crap that is going on in the world! NO! I want this time to relax and just get a good night's rest.

If I do not, well then we are going to have a problem. This time is for me to just take a breath and calm down from the day. I need that otherwise, I will just be moody and hormonal the next day.

Some people might say, "Isn't that selfish, to make your partner sleep in a separate bed?" To that, I would say HELL NO! It actually is a good thing because if you were to wake up early, trying to get out of bed without waking the other person up is hard. You feel that you are in a field of mines and if you make the wrong move then BOOM! You're screwed.

The compromise that I would be willing to make is the fact that we could sleep in the same room but just have separate beds. I'm not up for all that cuddling crap! NO! The only thing I will be cuddling is a box of pizza and my computer watching "Titanic" for the 10th million time and wondering, "Why can't I have a romance like this!" Sorry, but sleeping is important to me because I want to be refreshed for the next day and not groggy from the night before.

Now people might say, "That is a great time to spend with your spouse, why would you give that up?" Heres the 411. Spending time with your spouse in the same bed while he or she farts and tries to make a dutch oven does not seem romantic to me at all.

There are compromised that can be made in every relationship. If you don't sleep in the same bed, try to find an activity that you both like to do if you want to spend more time with each other.

Simple things like that actually can help make the relationship that you have with your partner stronger and last longer. You will also create a special bond between each other and then at night you both can get a perfect nights rest.

To the people out there that believe I am being selfish, here is the deal. I would rather wake up refreshed knowing someone is in another bed that loves, rather than waking up alone with no one at all.