Fighting with your best friend is always one of the hardest things to get over. Every minute you’re fighting is like torture. Even when it’s not face-to-face, for people like me, it plagues the mind.
“What do I say?”
“How can I fix it?”
“What should I do?”
For impatient people (also like me), you want to fix it right away and make everything okay again, like it was before you guys fought or you want to turn back time. But of course, everyone knows that that’s just not how it works and turning back time is impossible.
My friend and I have been friends for three years now and up until now, we’ve had the smallest, pettiest fights. She’d call me names as a joke, I would take it personally, she would immediately apologize and we’d move on.
Recently, we ran into the hugest fight we’ve ever been in. Wrong words were said, mistakes were made, and misunderstandings occurred. Things just kept going downhill, and it wasn’t getting any better. This time, apologies just didn’t cut it.
I get emotionally attached too quickly and too easily and get hurt just as easily. So when we got into this fight, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Eventually, I talked to my other friend about it because I just didn’t know what to do and he said, “Chill out. You’ve just gotta give it some time. Just use this time to heal.”
Being as anxious as I am, waiting and giving someone space when I get into a fight with someone is one of the hardest things to do. Time serves as a friend and a foe (right now mostly foe) but who knows? Maybe he’s right. I’ve just gotta chill out. Let time do it’s healing and hopefully mend us back together. Slowly, I hope we come back to the way we were; maybe not perfectly, because I cannot turn back time. Maybe this will bring us closer together than we were before. I want to look back and be able to laugh with her and talk about how trivial the fight was, even if it seems catastrophic now. Will the time given now allow for that future? Only time will tell.
